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Office Diva: Get the Treatment and Recognition You Deserve at Work

FlourishAnyway is an Industrial/Organizational Psychologist with applied experience in corporate human resources and consulting.

Why You Should Embrace the Diva in You

Office Diva.  Girl, is this you?  Embrace the diva that you are!  Learn how to achieve the applause and recognition that you rightly deserve for your talents and effort.

Office Diva. Girl, is this you? Embrace the diva that you are! Learn how to achieve the applause and recognition that you rightly deserve for your talents and effort.

Girl, How Awesome Are You?

Fiery. Demanding. High maintenance. And that's you on a good day at the office.

Girl, you are the Office Diva, and you have decided to embrace the goddess that you are. Let 'em call you what they will. (We all know haters gonna hate.) But just know this: When it comes to how you do your work, you got it goin' on. And on and on.

You're competent, confident, and educated. You're classy, sassy, and at the top of your game. Actually, sis, you own the game.

Some have tried to bring you down, but girlfriend, you ain't fallin'. No, you keep gettin' back up, beatin' those odds. Now you shine so bright that the rest of those cube dwellers are gonna need sunshades.

That's because ain't no one comes close to you—unless you let 'em.

Pop Diva Katy Perry: International Smile

Don't Deny Your Divadom

Dang, girl! Is this you? Are you that good?

Being the Office Diva is an art. There are imitators, impersonators, and a whole lot of wannabes. But you—well, lady, you are the real deal.

Let's Get the Definition Straight

Wikipedia defines "diva" as a woman of outstanding talent, typically including celebrities such as singers and actresses. It's an Italian word that first applied to opera singers.

But we're expanding that definition to dynamos in any work domain, such as politics, sports, and the media. We're also including those power-house employees who are the brains and the talent behind businesses both big and small.

Whether you're the Diva of Data, a Sales Diva, or the goddess of any niche in between ... you know who you are.

Reader Poll: How's Your Tiara?

Broadcasting Diva Oprah Winfrey

Oprah Winfrey landed a local gig co-anchoring the evening news at age19. Now she's a billionaire, philanthropist, co-author of many books, and launched her own tv network and magazine. Her warm personal style promoted a culture of self-confession.

Oprah Winfrey landed a local gig co-anchoring the evening news at age19. Now she's a billionaire, philanthropist, co-author of many books, and launched her own tv network and magazine. Her warm personal style promoted a culture of self-confession.

Rule 1: Cultivate Expertise by Finding a Need, Then Filling It

Girl, you know you're great at your job, but tell us this: What is your expertise?

  • "I analyze data so business numbers tell a convincing story."
  • "I recruit top sales talent for the world's largest consumer products company."
  • "I help food manufacturers achieve USDA and FDA compliance."

When people ask you what you do, don't bore them with your job title. That means nothing. Instead, take it as an opportunity to describe your expertise.

Most people can claim expertise in something, even if it's very narrow. However, they may not

  • realize it
  • know how to succinctly package it for communication
  • understand how to demonstrate its relevance and value to those who need it or
  • grow and transform their expertise to keep pace with change.

Political Diva Hillary Clinton

Diva Hillary Clinton came a long way in her journey from First Lady of Arkansas, to First Lady of the US, to New York Senator, to Presidential contender and Former Secretary of State.  Although she wasn't elected President, she's still a Diva.

Diva Hillary Clinton came a long way in her journey from First Lady of Arkansas, to First Lady of the US, to New York Senator, to Presidential contender and Former Secretary of State. Although she wasn't elected President, she's still a Diva.

Take the Quiz: Are You the Office Diva?

For each question, choose the best answer for you.

  1. How good are you at your job?
    • I am a FREAKIN' ROCK STAR when it comes to work. I shine at my job. I know it, and so does everybody else.
    • This honey works hard for her money but occasionally breaks a heel.
    • I try to show up and give the best performance I can.
    • I prefer to see others shine while I stay in the shadows. We're all in this together. Kumbaya.
  2. What do you call a male diva?
    • Just a dude, girlfriend.
    • Divo ... as if anyone knows what that is!
    • A difficult coworker
  3. How's your self-confidence?
    • Don't touch the tiara, sweetheart. I know what I'm good at, and the rest I leave for others.
    • I'm a pretty big fan of myself. Want to discuss?
    • My tiara is missing its sparkle, and I wear flats instead of heels.
    • I'm a fragile, broken spirit just trying to heal. I can't even pretend.
    • I don't know. When people say, "Bring it!" I say "Bring what? I don't have it!"
  4. How do you typically respond to setbacks or slip-ups?
    • If I make mistakes, ain't nobody gonna know. This girl is bullet proof.
    • I throw my tiara at whomever is to blame. And maybe have them fired.
    • I keep gettin' up. I learn from the mistake and rely on my fan club to pull me through.
    • I ruminate over what I did wrong so I won't repeat the error.
  5. How difficult to please are you?
    • This girl is exacting, precise, and she knows what she wants.
    • I'm fickle, but I can be flexible if I need to.
    • I'm high maintenance but can explain my rationale if I must. Just shut up and pass the pink M&Ms, will ya?
    • I'm flexible, enjoy change, and especially love to put decisions to a group vote.
  6. What is your attention-seeking style?
    • I enjoy recognition and reward as much as the next glam girl (or guy).
    • I like to shine, sister. And did you know that just basking in my aura confers health benefits?
    • Just pay me more. Mo' money. I can't pay my mortgage with your "atta-girls."
    • Let's all share in the glory. It was team effort, and we contributed equally.
  7. How do you get along with others in the office?
    • Anyone who understands the value of what I do puts up with my occasional hissy fits.
    • I have my own Fan Club. Wanna join?
    • They're just jealous. There's one tiara, and it's all MINE!
    • I'm the co-worker everyone turns to for support. I quietly facilitate the office birthday celebrations.
    • Sometimes they forget I work here.

Scoring

Use the scoring guide below to add up your total points based on your answers.

  1. How good are you at your job?
    • I am a FREAKIN' ROCK STAR when it comes to work. I shine at my job. I know it, and so does everybody else.: +5 points
    • This honey works hard for her money but occasionally breaks a heel.: +3 points
    • I try to show up and give the best performance I can.: -1 point
    • I prefer to see others shine while I stay in the shadows. We're all in this together. Kumbaya.: -5 points
  2. What do you call a male diva?
    • Just a dude, girlfriend.: +5 points
    • Divo ... as if anyone knows what that is!: +4 points
    • A difficult coworker: +2 points
  3. How's your self-confidence?
    • Don't touch the tiara, sweetheart. I know what I'm good at, and the rest I leave for others.: +5 points
    • I'm a pretty big fan of myself. Want to discuss?: +4 points
    • My tiara is missing its sparkle, and I wear flats instead of heels.: -1 point
    • I'm a fragile, broken spirit just trying to heal. I can't even pretend.: -5 points
    • I don't know. When people say, "Bring it!" I say "Bring what? I don't have it!": -4 points
  4. How do you typically respond to setbacks or slip-ups?
    • If I make mistakes, ain't nobody gonna know. This girl is bullet proof.: +4 points
    • I throw my tiara at whomever is to blame. And maybe have them fired.: +0 points
    • I keep gettin' up. I learn from the mistake and rely on my fan club to pull me through.: +5 points
    • I ruminate over what I did wrong so I won't repeat the error.: -5 points
  5. How difficult to please are you?
    • This girl is exacting, precise, and she knows what she wants.: +5 points
    • I'm fickle, but I can be flexible if I need to.: +1 point
    • I'm high maintenance but can explain my rationale if I must. Just shut up and pass the pink M&Ms, will ya?: +3 points
    • I'm flexible, enjoy change, and especially love to put decisions to a group vote.: -5 points
  6. What is your attention-seeking style?
    • I enjoy recognition and reward as much as the next glam girl (or guy).: +3 points
    • I like to shine, sister. And did you know that just basking in my aura confers health benefits?: +5 points
    • Just pay me more. Mo' money. I can't pay my mortgage with your "atta-girls.": +3 points
    • Let's all share in the glory. It was team effort, and we contributed equally.: -5 points
  7. How do you get along with others in the office?
    • Anyone who understands the value of what I do puts up with my occasional hissy fits.: +4 points
    • I have my own Fan Club. Wanna join?: +5 points
    • They're just jealous. There's one tiara, and it's all MINE!: +2 points
    • I'm the co-worker everyone turns to for support. I quietly facilitate the office birthday celebrations.: -4 points
    • Sometimes they forget I work here.: -5 points

Interpreting Your Score

A score between -28 and -10 means: Sorry, you're not an Office Diva -- not even close. Join an Office Diva's entourage and let her show you how it's done.

A score between -9 and 9 means: You're a Diva Wannabe. Go read those Rules For Divadom, and get working, girl!

A score between 10 and 22 means: You have definite Diva potential. You may be a Diva In Training or a Junior Diva. Go read those Rules For Divadom, and shine your tiara!

A score between 23 and 28 means: You're an Office Diva with a sparkly tiara. Isn't it awesome to be you?

A score between 29 and 35 means: Diva, your star shines so bright we're ALL going to need sunshades. An Off-the-Charts Office Diva! You go girl -- but beware of the line between Office Diva and Difficult Employee.

Expertise Requires Seasoning

Experts lay claim to a specific practice area. Others turn to them for answers and advice regarding their subject matter knowledge.

In many fields, it takes as long as 10,000 hours of deliberate practice—or about 10 years' experience—to be regarded as an expert.1 Thus, becoming an expert and the Office Diva involves professional "seasoning."

The Office Diva finds her professional niche based on her experience, natural affinity for a specialty, and what talents are in demand. She finds a business need and then fills it. Strategic, the Office Diva carves out her niche based not only on what her employer needs but also on where her field or industry is going.

Whereas her specialty area might bore, overwhelm, or confuse others, the diva is delighted that it does, because that allows her the opportunity to shine more brightly. She acquires respect as she shares answers and solutions.

The Office Diva understands that finding a valued niche means that her reputation and credibility grow along with her knowledge. As her expertise becomes more well-known, she acquires more influence, power, and control.

As this occurs, the Office Diva discovers that she can increasingly name her price, her terms, and even have a voice in who she chooses to work with. Now, dahhling, that's the glory of Divadom!

Beyoncé Sings the Diva Anthem

Tell Your (Short) Story

The Office Diva has learned that it's not simply what she knows but how she markets her expertise—both inside and outside her company. Therefore, she takes the time to build her personal brand. She communicates mastery of her niche in 10 words or less. This expertise statement helps her answer the proverbial "What do you do?" question.

Additionally, the Office Diva can succinctly explain to co-workers, clients, and executives why her expertise is relevant to the situation they face and what value (or results) she can deliver. She describes the problem then casts herself as the solution.

As an example, consider the Office Diva who proclaims, "I help federal contractors achieve OFCCP compliance." She should be able to briefly articulate what a federal contractor is, offer a dollar estimate of the company's federal contracts (her relevance), and rattle off the impacts of not complying with regulations (her value).

When you've done that convincingly, heads turn and ears perk up. And then, Diva, the floor is yours!

Singing Diva Mariah Carey

Pop Diva Mariah Carey's voice ranges more than five octaves, and she writes most of her own songs.  On the list of best-selling female artists of all time, she ranks #3.

Pop Diva Mariah Carey's voice ranges more than five octaves, and she writes most of her own songs. On the list of best-selling female artists of all time, she ranks #3.

Rule 2: Effectively Self-Promote

Girl, stop being so shy. There's nothing wrong with self-promotion when you have the expertise and authority to support your claims.

You don't have to be the world's premier expert at what you do—just expert enough. Stop waiting for someone to crown you an authority. If you're already there, you know it!

Reach Out to Others to Share Your Good News

An Office Diva actively engages other professionals both inside and outside the workplace. Whether it's in the lunch room, at a professional conference, or waiting for a client meeting to begin, she asks key questions then actively listens to the answers.

She understands that efficient self-promotion means determining who key players and decision makers are. She gets these people talking about their favorite topic—themselves.

The Diva knows her clients, her potential competition, and what factors drive their attitudes and decisions on key matters. She identifies and discusses the business problems that keep them up at night. She develops understanding of their challenges, opportunities, goals, and talents. In so doing, she also earns the right to share the same information about herself.

Even if you don't think their issues may be immediately relevant to you, your new learnings may allow you to create broader context and linkages that could prove valuable in the future.2

When you self-promote, consider ways you can help one another. Talk about your track record and connect the dots between your expertise and others' business problems.

Share what drives your expertise forward:

  • What results have you achieved in the past?
  • What problems have you solved?
  • What big learnings do you have to share?
  • How have you inspired others to achieve more?
  • What excites you?
  • What business issues do you foresee becoming more important in the future?

If you self-promote effectively, you'll find that others will begin to promote your personal brand for you through word-of-mouth.

Girl, if the tiara fits, wear it.

Girl, if the tiara fits, wear it.

10 Self-Promotion Ideas For the Office Diva

  1. Join the digital conversation. Use LinkedIn, Google+ circles, Twitter, and other social media platforms to gain recognition. Actively share with professionals inside and outside your company, field, and industry.
  2. Ask for LinkedIn endorsements or written feedback from clients, co-workers, and others. Testimonials come in handy during performance evaluations and job hunting. Make sure to return the favor.
  3. Attend and actively participate in industry and professional conferences.
  4. Showcase your expertise by writing guest posts for blogs, creating a video tutorial, or giving a speech to a community or professional group.
  5. Mentor a Diva-In-Training (or a divo, her male equivalent). She'll never forget you, and she'll sing your praises.
  6. Be a people and expertise connector—the common link that introduces other experts, decision makers, and leaders to one another.
  7. Enthusiastically express your admiration for people who are good at what they do. Inspire and encourage others experiencing temporary setbacks by sharing a personal story.
  8. Set up "informational" lunch meetings with people in the organization you admire—influencers, experts, and leaders. Ask them how they got to be so awesome. (Just don't be weird about it.)
  9. Volunteer to work on inter-departmental task forces and committees so you can expand your expertise and your connections.
  10. Acquire additional training outside of your area of expertise. Stay connected to fellow trainees. Share what you've learned with people who need to know.

Diva, Don't Be Shy! Promote Your Talents

An Office Diva self-promotes her awesomeness.  When asked, "What do you do?" she doesn't offer a job title.  She summarizes her expertise in 10 words or less.  That's impact!

An Office Diva self-promotes her awesomeness. When asked, "What do you do?" she doesn't offer a job title. She summarizes her expertise in 10 words or less. That's impact!

Tip 3: Build an Entourage of Devoted Supporters

Office Divas know that no one succeeds alone. They build an entourage consisting of a committed circle of trusted supporters, or fans.

The diva's devotees provide mutual support and advice, facilitate connections with others who can help, and promote the diva's professional brand (i.e., her expertise and reputation). In return, the Office Diva does the same for them. The diva knows that people feel compelled to help those who have helped them.

Diva How-To: Build A Fan Base

People like to be associated with winners, experts, and authorities. Thus, a diva begins to build her entourage as she shares her expertise, vision, and track record. Like-minded others are drawn to her success. They believe in her story and recognize that she may prove helpful to them.

Diva, strategically handpick your followers by providing them with

  • useful information,
  • assistance, or
  • a referral.

Make sure they know your story (and you, theirs). Ask for their feedback, assistance, or ideas on small issues at first. Genuinely compliment them. Show them that you

  • are action-oriented,
  • a risk-taker,
  • are willing and able to help them,
  • can withstand criticism, and
  • have big dreams.

And then let them bring other fans to you.

Publishing Diva J.K. Rowling

During the seven years that it took her to write the first Harry Potter book, J.K. Rowling faced divorce, her mother's death, and poverty. Her Harry Potter series launched her to superstardom.  Harry Potter is the all-time best-selling book series.

During the seven years that it took her to write the first Harry Potter book, J.K. Rowling faced divorce, her mother's death, and poverty. Her Harry Potter series launched her to superstardom. Harry Potter is the all-time best-selling book series.

Tip 4: Act the Part and Own the Room

For most people, meetings are the menace of office productivity. On average, employees spend 5.6 hours trapped in them. Knowledge workers and managers typically spend 25-80% of their time in meetings.3

But the Office Diva uses meetings as an opportunity to showcase

  • her good judgment
  • expertise
  • communication skills.

Let's face it: Meetings typically expose you to a broader variety of influencers from across your organization and even outside your company. This includes clients, executives, consultants, and people who work in other departments.

Each of them evaluates you by how you walk into the room, how you sit, how well you listen, comments you make, and who you seem to ally yourself with. You can influence their perceptions.

Inspirational Ted Talk: Fake It Until You Become It -- Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are

How to Make Your Best Impression

To make your best impression:

  • Make a Rock Star Entrance. Enter the room like you belong there. In only 1/10 of a second, people form impressions based on a stranger's face, and those impressions are difficult to change.4 Smile, and go in with a purpose. Studies show it affects the "emotional temperature" in the room.
  • Communicate With Confidence. You were included in the meeting for a reason, so share your experience and viewpoint. Ask questions to show engagement. Speak up so you're loud enough to be heard. Don't delve into too much detail. Be succinct and to-the-point.
  • Watch Your Nonverbals. Adopt great posture and a firm handshake. Keep your chin up, avoid slouching, and maintain eye contact to connect with others. Be aware of body language such as over-gesturing (e.g., repetitively tapping a pen) or turning away from people. And watch where you sit around the conference table.
  • Tune In. Focus on the social situation at hand. Almost 91% of employees in one study admitted to daydreaming in meetings, and 39% acknowledged sleeping.5 Be present mentally, rather than answering emails or thinking about where you're going for lunch.
  • Look the Part. Your "work uniform" should convey competence, confidence, and class. Watch skirt length, the amount of skin you show, and those shoes. I once worked with a diva wannabe who wore skirts so short that when she sat down and crossed her legs, others could look straight up her dress. That's the wrong impression, though a memorable one.

Tip 5: Know the Difference Between Diva and Difficult Employee

Diva, let's face it: You know that you're all that. But think before you act out.

Hissy fits, alienating co-workers, slamming things down when you don't get your way—these episodes of high drama are unbecoming of anyone. In addition, research shows that professional women who display anger are perceived as lower in status, more "out of control" and less competent.6

There's a Fine Line

If you don't have sufficient soft skills, you may cross the line between Office Diva and difficult employee.  Trouble indeed.

If you don't have sufficient soft skills, you may cross the line between Office Diva and difficult employee. Trouble indeed.

Although it's unfair—because angry men are not penalized in this way—remind yourself that such behavior is inconsistent with the image you want to project. Do you really want high drama to detract from your awesomeness?

Remember that "soft skills" such as getting along with team mates and being professional and courteous are just as important as your technical expertise. Somewhere there is a line between Office Diva and difficult employee.

Just make sure you know where that line is.

Olympic Divas Revel in the Spotlight

Downhill skiiers Tina Maze from Slovenia and Dominique Gisin from Switzerland tied for the Gold Medal in the 2014 Winter Olympics.  Here, they share the spotlight with Bonze medal winner Lara Gut from Switzerland.

Downhill skiiers Tina Maze from Slovenia and Dominique Gisin from Switzerland tied for the Gold Medal in the 2014 Winter Olympics. Here, they share the spotlight with Bonze medal winner Lara Gut from Switzerland.

How NOT to Manage Divas and Other High Performers

Failure to treat an Office Diva right can bring consequences: frustration, lower productivity, job stress, and intent to turnover.

Management Mistake & RationaleWhat It Does To High PerformersPotential Impact On Employers

The employer provides ever-changing priorities and business initiatives, believing it reflects the nature of the business environment they're in.

When new initiatives are like Baskin Robbins' Flavor-of-the Month, employees begin to feel jerked around. They sense that the organization has no clear sense of direction. They tune out.

According to a Gallup poll, 71% of American employees are "not engaged" or "actively disengaged" from their work. They are emotionally tuned out from their work, less likely to be productive, and more likely to turnover.

The employer claims to pay for performance but doesn't sizably differentiate rewards and recognition for high and low performers. Management believes employees should feel lucky to have a job.

High performers thrive on merit-based reward and recognition. Failure to differentiate levels of pay, career progression, bonuses, and awards creates deep dissatisfaction.

According to a 2014 survey by CareerBuilder, 45% of employees dissatisfied with advancement opportunities intended to leave.

Managers believe they don't have the luxury of allowing people to work on what they're good at.

Assigning a high performer tasks that anyone (less talented) could do will make them feel bored and disengaged.

39% of employees in CareerBuilder's survey reported feeling underemployed. One in five employees plan to change jobs in 2014.

Management demands employees "do more with less." They believe high performers can take on significantly higher workload without consequences.

Just because a high performer is capable of taking on mountains of extra work doesn't mean they don't feel the strain. They feel stress and need Work/Life Balance, too.

According to a poll by the non-profit Families and Work Institute, more than half of employees felt overworked and overwhelmed.

Summary: The 5 Rules Of Divadom

  1. Cultivate Expertise by Finding a Need, Then Filling It

  2. Effectively Self-Promote

  3. Build an Entourage of Devoted Supporters

  4. Act the Part and Own the Room

  5. Know the Difference Between Diva and Difficult Employee

'70s Disco Diva Donna Summer: She Works Hard For the Money

Notes

1Szalavitz, Maria. "10,000 Hours May Not Make a Master After All." TIME.com. Last modified May 20, 2013. http://healthland.time.com/2013/05/20/10000-hours-may-not-make-a-master-after-all/.
2 Warrell, Margie. "Self-Promotion Is Not Crucial (Unless You Want To Get Ahead!)." Forbes. Last modified April 29, 2013. http://www.forbes.com/sites/margiewarrell/2013/04/29/self-promotion-is-not-crucial-unless-you-want-to-get-ahead/.

3Oklahoma State University. "Meeting Analysis: Findings from Research and Practice." Last modified 2001. http://www.okstate.edu/ceat/msetm/courses/etm5221/Week%201%20Challenges/Meeting%20Analysis%20Findings%20from%20Research%20and%20Practice.pdf.

4Wargo, Eric. "How Many Seconds to a First Impression?" Association for Psychological Science. Last modified July, 2006. https://www.psychologicalscience.org/index.php/publications/observer/2006/july-06/how-many-seconds-to-a-first-impression.html.

5INFOCOM. "Meetings in America." Verizon. Last modified 2014. https://e-meetings.verizonbusiness.com/global/en/meetingsinamerica/uswhitepaper.php.

6Brescoll, Victoria L., and Eric L. Uhlmann. "Can An Angry Woman Get Ahead? Status Conferral, Gender, and Expression of Emotion in the Workplace." Psychological Science 19, no. 3 (2008): 268-275.

This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.

© 2014 FlourishAnyway

Comments

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on December 05, 2014:

Martie - Embrace the goddess in you, girl!

Martie Coetser from South Africa on December 05, 2014:

Excellent hub! Here and there I thought I was definitely the office diva, but my score was only 33% .... I am a wanna-be diva. Hahaha!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on April 23, 2014:

Crafty - Sometimes they're one in the same, but embrace your awesomeness either way! Glad you liked it!

CraftytotheCore on April 23, 2014:

Wow Flourish, I don't know how I missed this one. Oh what an excellent article and so fun to read! What intrigued me the most is the definition of Diva as a woman of outstanding talent. I never knew that. I always thought a diva was a woman that liked attention, was showy, dressed in a flashy way. I had it all wrong! LOL

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on April 10, 2014:

Suzanne - Three cheers for the diva in you!

Suzanne Day from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia on April 09, 2014:

I'm a diva and a half, often with a bad temper. But it gets stuff done. Everyone knows I'm great at my job, but management do all of the wrong things to everyone in my workplace so I often find myself the James Dean of the people, sticking up for multiple causes and almost resigning over them. A great hub, awesome and voted up!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 21, 2014:

Nancy - We're all experts at something and have varied talents we're building. We're all at different stages of learning or success, and none of us succeeds in a vacuum. When you give more and share your talents, everyone wins! Thanks for the great comment and for sharing, too!

Nancy Owens from USA on March 21, 2014:

I absolutely love this Hub. It is jam-packed with very valuable information for both employees and entrepreneurs. I like that you talk about supporting others while working to develop your own "brand" and that you explain the difference between being a diva and being a pain for the employer. By the way, I love Oprah's dress in that picture! Shared and voted up.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 18, 2014:

Stephhicks68 - Step into that spotlight, sound the trumpets, and take a bow. You've earned it! Thanks for reading and sharing.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 18, 2014:

Yay, Audrey! A through and through diva graces us -- YOU! How awesome it is to know you, lady!

Stephanie Marshall from Bend, Oregon on March 18, 2014:

I just don't have the diva personality! I love to work hard and reap the benefits, but don't shine the spotlight on me too brightly. :)

Fun hub. Love the map with all the "diva" cities you can live in across the United States. Rated up and sharing!

Audrey Howitt from California on March 18, 2014:

Well I am a classical singer and a voice teacher--so I really am a diva!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 18, 2014:

Jeannieinabottle - Oh, you're too much! I bet you are a bunch of fun to work with and a bit of a challenge. Some of us are!

Jeannie Marie from Baltimore, MD on March 18, 2014:

I am not a diva at work, but I have been called an assortment of other colorful names. :-) Trust me, they all know when I enter the room, too. Interesting hub and voted up!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 17, 2014:

Liz - If the tiara fits, wear it! Love the label! Thanks for reading and commenting.

Elizabeth Parker from Las Vegas, NV on March 17, 2014:

This was too funny. I enjoyed the hub. Well, at my day job I'm the only girl in a position of tech support, but I don't know if I'd classify as the diva! lol And like Bill said, at home, I am in my own writing studio, so I'm going to take the diva title for that. :)

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 15, 2014:

Jo - Thank you for the kind compliment. I'm glad to inspire the Health Hub Diva in you! I admire how you completely own your expertise and share it with others. Have a great weekend.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 15, 2014:

Eddy, Glad you enjoyed this, and thank you for reading and commenting!

Jo Alexis-Hagues from Lincolnshire, U.K on March 15, 2014:

Flourish, you've manage to make this hub interesting, funny, inspirational and informative. In fact; a thoroughly great read! Up all the way and sharing.

Eiddwen from Wales on March 15, 2014:

Oh how I enjoyed this refreshing and interesting hub. Voted up for sure and wishing you a great weekend.

Eddy.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 14, 2014:

Anna - That's an awesome compliment. Thanks! And have a terrific weekend.

Anna Haven from Scotland on March 14, 2014:

Well you managed to make this quirky, cool and also really useful. There is definitely a diva in us all just waiting to be released.

Excellent hub and a pleasure to read.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 13, 2014:

MsDora - Thanks for reading and commenting. Have a great day!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 13, 2014:

Laura Schneider - Thanks for your enthusiastic kudos! I sure welcome a standing ovation any day!

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on March 13, 2014:

What great confidence booster! Rule number two is challenge for many women. You laid it out (as well as all the other rules) very well.

Laura Schneider from Minnesota, USA on March 12, 2014:

Such great advice for all women especially because women are conditioned to not "show off" or self-promote from an early age, and it's so necessary, as you point out, to do if you want to get ahead and smash those glass ceilings to bits. A standing ovation for FlourishAnyway on an outstandingly superior Hub!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 12, 2014:

Thank you, Devika. Embrace the diva in you!

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on March 12, 2014:

Excellent advise on being a Diva you summed it all so beautifully. You always have such interesting hubs I vote up and useful.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 12, 2014:

Eddy - Thanks for reading. Have a good day.

Eiddwen from Wales on March 12, 2014:

A great read and voted up for sure.

Enjoy your day.

Eddy.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 12, 2014:

Cherylann - Thank you! I'm glad it made a difference. We can each embrace the divas that we are. Most people have expertise in something, it's just a matter of knowing your strengths and playing to them. And embracing the title.

Cherylann Mollan from India on March 11, 2014:

Hi FlourishAnyway! Wow! This is such a motivating hub. It really made me want to stand up and change the way I am in office. It is true that we sometimes have a tendency to undermine our abilities, or put on a display of modesty. But, to survive in this competitive world, you have to be able to gracefully self yourself, and your talents. These are indeed very wise words. :)

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 11, 2014:

Jackie - Thanks for reading and commenting. She sure was a Disco Diva.

Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on March 11, 2014:

Great fun hub and loved the Donna video! Sure do miss her. ^

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 11, 2014:

kerlund74 - The video was enlightening about what we tell the world and ourselves with our body language. Glad you stopped by!

kerlund74 from Sweden on March 11, 2014:

Hm, I am obviously not a Diva... Some great advices in this hub. I think many women could take some more space and get some more self-confident, would not hurt:) Great hub!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 11, 2014:

Fryday - Oh, certainly, they will tell you that they can! Thanks for reading and commenting. And hello to your feline friend and writing advisor.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 11, 2014:

Susan W. - Girl, you're a Diva and don't even know it! The only one left to convince is yourself.

I'll give you three recent reasons you're all that: 1) your hub "10 Interesting Facts About The Sochi 2014 Winter Olympics" was Hub Of the Day (HOTD), 2) your hub "Eight Strange (But True) Science and Maths Theories ~ That You Never Heard Of " was in the HubPot top 10 for the day of 2/27 and for the week, and 3) your hub "How To Get Free Stuff and Products From Companies" was also HOTD.

Claim your tiara and don't be afraid to shine, sister. You rock!

Mary Metallic from Seattle on March 11, 2014:

LOL, Cats... Can male cats be office divas too? My cat is one for sure! ;-)

Susan W from The British Isles, Europe on March 11, 2014:

Excellent hub, Flourish. I enjoyed reading this so much, it will help me to become a little more professional and be more confident. You always write amazing hubs and this one makes you worthy of the diamond tiara. I'd call you the HubPages Diva, you are most definitely one of the best writers here. How I look forward to reading your hubs!

In every office or workplace, there is always a diva who is very confident, excellent at social skills and does most of the talking. I am not one of them, unfortunately but I am sure that after this hub, I will improve and become a more self-confident person.

Well done, I feel happier and I feel like I can make an impact after this. Thank you! Voted interesting and beautiful and shared.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 11, 2014:

Raymond - Divas do spice things up. Thanks for reading and commenting.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 11, 2014:

Joelle - Cats are definitely the Office Divas! I have one flopping all over my computer mouse right now (and occasionally stepping over the keyboard). With their human counterparts, the Office Diva, managers are usually terrific at encouraging and supporting them or they just don't have a clue. Divas become especially irked when they must carry the workload of underachieving wannabes or when their expertise is undervalued by a short-sighted manager. It's like telling a cat to "go fetch." They could technically do it, but it's just not a wise use of their talents. And besides, what's the point? The person who threw the ball needs to hold onto it and stop playing stupid games. I'm glad you enjoyed the hub. Have a great week!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 11, 2014:

Jo - I completely understand where you're coming from! I have a lovely 14-year-old Diva Daughter who has been gifted with all the self-confidence in the world. She enjoys sharing stories about what she's awesome at and invites relatives to her soccer game by asking them, "Wanna come see me win?" Some things you grow into and others you just fall into! Thank you so much for reading and commenting.

Raymond Philippe from The Netherlands on March 11, 2014:

Another informative hub. But I do admit being happy, very happy, that I don't have to deal with those "Divas and Other High Performers" and divos. Makes life, at least my life, much more relaxed. ;-)

Jo Miller from Tennessee on March 11, 2014:

I am so not a diva and they scare the hell out of me, but I think I raised one and may have one as a granddaughter. The self-promotion thing is the most difficult thing for me about writing online. I tend to avoid it.

This in a wonderfully written hub and I enjoyed it so much.

kidscrafts from Ottawa, Canada on March 11, 2014:

As I work from home, the divas in my office are my two cats purring in front of the warm gas fireplace while I am slaving at my computer ;-)

I love your hubs, Flourish because you bring to light the different aspect of the workplace. And yes there are some real divas and some pretend divas.

Your table with "How Not To Manage Divas and Other High Performers" is to the point. Some employers will give extra work to the limit of breaking some valued employees to compensate the lack of productivity of others. They would gain by respecting them more because those people will accomplish a lot by themselves if they are not stressed and pushed over the limit!

Thank you for sharing another fantastic hub, Flourish! As always I love the humor in it :-) A must read!

Enjoy your day!

I liked your example in "Look the Part". I think that some people want to "play" so much the part that they forget what is the essence of being a real diva; it's not just the look and the attitude. I think it comes from the soul. The divas don't play the part, they just are who they are.

Great examples of real divas throughout your hub!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 11, 2014:

I know you're a Diva, too, Faith! Don't let those Office Diva imposters and wannabes near your tiara; they can't bring you down! (I worked in state government for about two years and I know it can sometimes be.) From one Diva to another, thanks for stopping by for the fun. May you continue to have glitter and sparkles all around ...

Faith Reaper from southern USA on March 11, 2014:

hehe ... I just love your hubs, they are truly useful and, yet, entertaining to read no doubt! You are a hub Diva, Flourish! Your hub shows up and we take note! Well, I have been at my office for 19 years and there have been some who try to bring me down, but I am still there! Yes, those who think they are Divas, but in reality are difficult employees, need to get a clue and fast too!

Great hub, you Diva you!

Up and more and sharing

Have a great day,

Faith Reaper

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 11, 2014:

Hi, Rajan! Thanks for stopping by. Male divas are "divos" (Italian word) but that sure sounds funny.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on March 11, 2014:

I wonder if there is a word for males of outstanding talent! Excellent information, though. Thanks.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 10, 2014:

Rafiq23 - I'm glad you enjoyed this! Thanks for reading and commenting.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 10, 2014:

Bill - How 'bout if we call you HubDiva ... or I guess divo technically?

Muhammad Rafiq from Pakistan on March 10, 2014:

Interesting hub! I read the hub thoroughly and enjoyed it very much. It's replete with unique ideas for becoming a veteran Office Diva. Any girl, who wants to prove herself as one of the best Office Diva, should follow the instructions, as mentioned in this hub, in letter and spirit.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on March 10, 2014:

Well, I work by myself in my own writing studio...does that make me the diva? :)

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