Alexandra is an ambitious, self-driven, and aggressive woman who knows what she wants.
It is not an accident that you are going from one job to the next. Have you ever tasted something and kept spitting it out because you couldn't find the courage to swallow? No matter how hard you try, some foods are not "your thing." Why do you keep applying to the same type of job, only to either get fired or quit?
They say insanity is banging your head against the wall and expecting a different result. If you hop from one job to the next, in the same field or position, chances are, that field is not for you.
Make a list of things you can't stand about the last several jobs you quit (or were terminated from). If you keep applying to the same jobs consisting of each thing you hated about your last position, something is wrong.
In order for us to survive, we need a job. We need that paycheck to pay our bills and rent (or mortgage). "Finding yourself" might seem frivolous when you have a family to feed. However, jumping from one job to the next and having constant instability will only hurt your chances of finding employment.
There are people who will stay in a position no matter how terrible it makes them feel because they need the money. Then there are other people who will quit or get terminated (due to self-sabotage).
Bottom line: you are miserable either way.
Unfortunately, the world doesn't care about your misery. They only care if you are a contributing member of society. Society judges you based on your net worth (how much money you have).
Here are some options to consider when unemployed and desperate:
1. There are always options.
Create a safety net. No matter what the field is, there is always someone who is hiring. It is a matter of you being willing to go and find them.
2. There may be good reasons you didn't belong in that job.
It is time to get real. It's quite likely you sabotaged yourself to get terminated. In this day and age, companies are not so quick to fire people. So ask yourself, why am I no longer at this job? This is the moment where you need to be super honest with yourself, even if it hurts. You might be thinking, "How can you say it was my fault I got fired?" Look back at events during your employment, and ask yourself, "Would I keep an employee who acting the way I did?" If there is any hesitation in your answer, then the answer is no.
3. Put together a resume based on your skills, not skills employers want to hear about.
How many times have we said to ourselves "if only this job really knew my true potential" or "if only I could put down life experience on my resume". Create an "if only" resume. Put together all your skills, talents, and accomplishments that YOU feel make you the perfect candidate. Forget the cookie-cutter resume jargon and put together a masterpiece that makes you shine. You will be surprised with what you come up with.
4. Take risks and get creative.
Being unemployed could be a blessing in disguise. Some of the richest and most famous people were homeless before making it big. Steve Jobs, J.K Rowling, and Thomas Edison had a rough start. They were jobless and homeless. The common denominator in their success is that they followed their passions. The best thing about being cornered is it forces you to fight.
Remember: There is a difference between being unemployed and becoming a lost soul. Just because you lost your job doesn't mean "it's the end of the line." Stop walking into the same wall thinking it will turn into a door. Be honest with yourself and ask questions you have always avoided. Start becoming accountable for your situation and take responsibility for your misery. It is time to start pushing your own buttons.
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.