Being an Effective Mentor - Making Aging Positive

Updated on March 18, 2018
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According to research women everywhere seem to fear aging more than men, and men worldwide appear to worry more than females about performing. If you are among the count that struggles with the feelings of fear, you need to understand the concern within you. What will help you to understand your fear, knowing fear is a necessary response to any form of danger—if we did not feel it, we would not be able to protect ourselves from reasonable threats.

Traumas or bad experiences can trigger a fear response, but as soon as you understand why it is alright to feel fear in your life, you can find self-control. Restraint will allow you to release your concerns to find satisfaction; so fear, worry, or doubt don't control and define your lives. The first step to discovering self-control is to identify what areas of your life need more restraint. Where in your life lacking more self-control, for example, a fear of "Who will take care of me?", a fear of not being loved, fear of being alone or a fear of not having enough money at retirement, which is the most significant concern among many.

Many older adults have spent years making a difference in the world but, after the age of sixty-five, they have found no role for themselves. Also, the younger generation treats them as socially useless. In the United States one of the most developed countries of the world; it is time to make older adults confident again with decision making so they can create a new stage of life. It will shape the trajectory of longer lives for seniors. Most aging men and women suffered from pain, far more profound than the physical. These illnesses are caused by not having a significant reason to wake up each morning.

It's time to tune into the demands of the older adults because they have shared their entire lives and wisdom with loved ones over the years. We must give the older adult back their requirements to live and purpose. The illness associated with the aging were created—by the lack of personal responsibility, meaning, and meaning in their lives. Their right has been taken away; they want the right to decide for themselves on what decisions to make. The next step is to make their life well worth meaningful again. Older adults want to assist frequently with roles that can use their abilities; when their capabilities are taken away, it brings about fear.

Experienced life mentors will help seniors understand that the only thing they have to fear is fear itself. The question is how accurately does this hold. Well, people have different types of concerns and perhaps levels of interest too. However, what makes one, a conqueror is how well they handle golden fears in life. Sometimes fortune is all about luck, but not to everyone it applies. Some people wage war to overcome life's frightening challenges while to others; experience is the best teacher.

The study surveyed on older adults showed that they had a fear of being weak as one of the most dreaded parts of aging by nine out of ten seniors. Because of the many problems that life always presents us with, we are often left in the middle of deep thoughts and particularly contemplating between two competing interests. As always, decision-making is about deciding against all odd despite the consequences that may fall upon you after that; courage defines the loser and the winner. However, there are severe situations that we can never handle single-handed, and this means finding a soldier to lean on is the best alternative.

Mentors are people like you and me, but what sets them apart from the pack is they prepare so many for life's challenges. Preparation goes a long way toward helping us manage stressful situations as well as broaden our understanding of life. Through mentors, we develop a new way to approach life and in the most innovative ways, formulate strategies for overcoming fears and achieving success. This is the reason why we need mentors for through their excellent guidance defined by empathy; we are better placed as players in life's challenges rather than spectators.

This may sound silly, but a person who allows fear to overtake their life is put in the same position as letting go of a balloon and watching helplessly as it drifts off into the sky. Similarly applies to lacking to acknowledge our fears when we are in denial with ourselves, with immediate worries, failure to face all the big things that scare us. To be able to win the battle is identifying everything that frightens you.

The Perceptions of Peer Mentors and what Mentees about

Mentors can be present in many forms or fashion, but mainly they are counselors who are always close to home and our hearts, for they still help us build on our talents, upgrade our skills and achieve a definite purpose in life. Mentors are like trusted advisers and role models – they are individuals who have "been there" and "done what" you going through.

They share a deep relationship with the other person as they share knowledge, experience, and advice toward the goal of professional and personal growth. Mentors assist the other person to prevent them from being used and making a fool of themselves.

Fast forward to golden fears and perhaps what makes the gist of this article; it is noteworthy that almost everyone who is human has fears or phobia about certain things in life. There are those who have a fear of the unknown in which case they are quite a tricky group of individuals to help. As for those who have definitive concerns, their situation is more accessible to track, and this is where a mentor would come in.

The fear of never being successful in life is one thing, and failing is another thing altogether. Sometimes seeing people who have achieved great success in life die in tragic road carnages days after landing their first job is disheartening. It is even more discouraging to see someone perish in a crash also before enjoying the first fruits of his or her toil. All these are not just fear factors, but real golden concerns that many are victims of.

Well, while some golden fears in life are easy to handle at an individual level, others require the indulgence of a third party. It could be your loved one that you share your most dreaded things in life with or merely a confidant whom you regard as dearest. A mentor can be anyone, even your partner as long as you can abide by their advice and confidence in them whenever something becomes a fear factor.

Mentorship programs are led by instructors who are motivational speakers, writers, and counselors, but what makes a mentorship understand how to assist many in achieving success is how well we appreciate the advice that we more often than not get from those whom we regard as effective counselors.

A mentor will help you understand why golden fears exist in life and most importantly, how to overcome your worst of fears. Because golden fears are like life most everyday challenges meaning most people have been through them, someone whose mentorship ideals stands proof and has beaten the test of time is all you can rely on the most.

Why Women Need Male Mentors

More than likely the person best suited to mentor, a female, is a man. However, women should not allow gender to get in the way of a potentially critical professional. For over a decade, the numbers for success pool do not lie: although women make up nearly half of America workforce, very few females make it as the influential leaders at the top.

One of America's most successful women in the military, Colonel Martha McSally, the first American woman to fly in combat said all her mentors were men, that led many to believe she accomplishes her success because all her mentors were men. Another reason a female need a male as a mentor, Ruth Bader Ginsberg a woman who got her first job provided thanks to a law school professor who created an intervention while attending a male law school.

A mentor is someone who has handled the worst of peer influences and has helped many overcome the most challenging times in life. Also, they have helped many to face their common difficulties to be great people whom we adore today. Most mentors run mentorship programs out of their experiences, and this is definitely a reason they will help you assemble the puzzle pieces.

A mentor can see your fears, concerns, and needs, they bring to the fore the fact that you are undergoing some difficult times, and this is why you can't afford to ignore the worth of their novelty and nobility if ever you want to overcome golden fears in life.

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