How Proper Planning Can Keep Your Senior in Charge During Retirement

Updated on May 1, 2020
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Kara has been in the senior care industry over twenty years. She earned her Bachelors in Social Work at Baylor University.

Protecting health, wealth, and legacy is a lifetime commitment—and one that requires proper planning later on in life.
Protecting health, wealth, and legacy is a lifetime commitment—and one that requires proper planning later on in life.

My automatic response to "Who is in charge here?" is typically: "the senior." (Unless you are standing in my home, in which case I would point to the pug.) Whether they are making the decision in current time or through decisions discussed and memorialized in the past, the one in charge is the senior loved one.

Plan Accordingly

This goes back to planning. Families must engage their senior loved ones in a conversation about their wishes and goals. We need to have tough conversations sometimes. Mom and Dad may want to stay at home "until they come out feet first," but we cannot agree or promise that this will happen when we just don't know how life is going to play out.

If a plan is created and financial planning shows that it is an affordable option, well, then it is just that, an option. If the financial plan does not support the expense of staying home, a conversation must be had regarding other options. Assisted living? Moving in with family? Dad finds a much younger "nurse" to marry late in life? (It happens! Have a plan.)

Who will execute your plan?

Beyond discussing goals and financial planning, a senior must establish who will execute this plan in the event they are no longer physically or cognitively able. This is accomplished through estate planning.

I will defer to a competent elder law attorney for specifics, but let me assure you one thing—the senior does not need to have an estate like the Biltmore in order to estate plan. Their ranch-style home on a quarter-acre estate needs a plan just as much as any millionaire! Part of estate planning is determining who will make decisions on their behalf regarding their finances and their health care.

It's Never Too Soon to Ask Questions

Protect and preserve your life's work by consulting with an elder care professional in estate planning.

Who gets power of attorney?

The choice of power of attorney is very important to both the senior and any other family members. Choosing this individual should include a meaningful conversation with the elder law attorney who is drafting your estate planning documents.

The power of attorney appointed serves as the decision-maker in all areas they have been given power, such as selling a home, admission to a care facility, managing health care, and spending money. The perspective of a neutral third party (your attorney) can be invaluable.

You don't want to be stuck with a bunch of regrets.

I've seen many people over the years who regretted not taking the time, or accepting the expense, to estate plan. Not paying an attorney cost them far more in the long run than they could have imagined. One's health, wealth, and legacy should not be left to documents purchased at office supply stores or downloaded from the internet.

So who's in charge? The senior and family who plans accordingly.

Making the challenging decisions before a crisis occurs helps give families peace of mind.
Making the challenging decisions before a crisis occurs helps give families peace of mind.

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This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.


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