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Crazy Neighbor Harassment and How to Deal With It

Teeuwynn has experience with neighborhood harassment. She hopes sharing her experiences can help others.

What to do if your neighbor is harassing you.

What to do if your neighbor is harassing you.

Everyone wants their neighborhood to be a pleasant place where everyone gets along, but sometimes it doesn’t work out that way. Sometimes you end up with either a crazy neighbor or one who harasses you in another way, like with dogs barking all night or by claiming part of your property is theirs. Problems like that can be very stressful—even scary—to deal with.

I am not a lawyer and cannot give legal advice, but I have been dealing with a crazy neighbor from hell. Using my situation as an example, I’ll share some of the ways to handle being harassed or endangered in your own neighborhood.

Our Crazy Neighbor

Here is a brief description of what we went through with our neighbors.

We have neighbors with three kids. The youngest boy is in middle school with one of my children. This boy had already been banned from our house a couple of years ago for theft and attempting to pay our younger daughter to expose herself.

I was approached on my property by his guardian, who proceeded to scream and tell me my child and another child were being mean to and hitting his son. He also said my child had been bothering his on the bus, and that I must have heard about it from the vice principal (I hadn't) and that it better stop, “or else.” Also, the neighbor knew his son had kicked mine between the legs, but that it was okay. (This was news to me.) He also said my child had bothered his child on the bus.

I was shaken by the verbal attack. We checked with the bus driver. It turns out our son had sat at the front of the bus and had not bothered that boy. The school informed us they forgot to tell us when the neighbor's son kicked our son between the legs (on video), which is illegal. They then looked at the videos and determined that the “assault” claim against my son and his friend was a false report.

Unfortunately, this neighboring family is unstable and now seems to be fixated on us. So, this is one particular harassment situation.

So, what to do about it?

How to Document Neighbor Harrassment

It is important to fully and accurately document the problems you are having with your neighbors. In order to show a pattern of harassment, especially if you want to pursue legal action, it's extremely important to document everything. Any action that is taken or interaction you have, keep a record of it.

  • Begin an electronic diary or use a digital voice recorder with time stamps (check your state's policy about this first, as the rules for recording without someone's knowledge vary from state to state).
  • Even if you just email yourself (and maybe one other person) on the subject line, you will begin documenting what is happening in the neighborhood.
  • In our case, I kept an email chain for myself and also kept one going with the school, following up on email after each meeting.
  • If there is any damage to your property, take photos as documentation, and email those to yourself and another to ensure a time stamp.
  • If you have any interaction or confrontation with your neighbor—large or small—take notes.
  • If you call the police, make detailed notes.

Is it legal to record my crazy neighbor?

In some states, you are legally allowed to record an interaction with someone without them knowing, but in other states (California, Connecticut, Florida, Illinois, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, Pennsylvania, and Washington) it isn't legal. Double-check your state's policy before you make any recording.

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Should You Talk to Your Harassing Neighbors?

If you think your neighbors are reasonable and safe, try talking to them calmly about the problem and see if you can work out a mutually acceptable solution. For example, in the case of dogs being left out all night to bark, maybe the neighbors would agree to take them in after 10:00 p.m. In our situation, our neighbors are too unstable to take this option, but it can definitely work with more reasonable people.

Writing a Letter

You can also try writing a polite-but-firm letter illustrating your concerns and expressing what you think could be a possible solution—or solutions—to the problem. If you want proof your neighbors received the letter, you can send it via certified mail.

Using a Mediator to Help a Neighborhood Dispute

If you feel it may help, you can hire a mediator to work between your two families. This is a step you might take if you think your situation might be close to bad enough to hire an attorney, but not quite that bad. Mediators are third party individuals who can objectively try to come up with a solution between the two parties. However given our situation, with personal animosities, this solution wasn't going to work for us.

Using Technology to Defend Yourself

If you are concerned about personal safety, you can consider a variety of other options.

  • You can get cameras placed around your property that upload to the internet and you can also get alerts on the phone. This can make you feel more safe about who is approaching your house, and if you are at home, if you want to answer the door.
  • You can also consider a security system. We have placed Nest cameras around our house which have given me a bit more peace of mind.

Involving the Police: Getting a Protective Order

If your neighbor is entering your property a lot, threatening you or being physically violent, you may be able to get a protective order against them. In some areas, the neighbor has to be arrested first, while in other areas you can go to your local courthouse, write down your evidence, and get an order for them to stay off your property. (We have not yet pursued this option.)

What if you don't know your harassing neighbor's name?

If you need to find out your neighbors’ names, you can go to your local Assessor and Property Tax Records office and give them your neighbors’ address. You should be able to get their names through that method.

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When to Call the Police

  • If your neighbor does something that makes you feel physically threatened, call the police and have them deal with it.
  • If you think another neighbor is in trouble, call the police.
  • If the neighbors are engaging in active, disorderly conduct, you can call the police as well. The same goes for if they are breaking local noise ordinances.
  • You can also call the local non-emergency number if you are not sure if your neighbor’s actions qualify for police intervention. A local officer will come by and talk to you.

When to Hire a Lawyer

If things just get too out-of-hand with your property line differences or other neighborly disputes, you can consult a lawyer. Often, you can have a brief consult for little money just to get an idea if you have a case. Make sure any lawyer you hire is familiar with local harassment laws and has tried these kind of cases before.

How can a lawyer help? A lawyer can:

  • Gather Evidence for You. This is invaluable in court. You need evidence to prove your neighbor’s wrongdoing.
  • File a Complaint. Where you need to file the complaint and how the process runs is something your lawyer will know and be able to do for you.
  • Write a Demand Letter. (See full description below.)
  • Go to Court. You will have a much better chance of winning your case against your neighbor if you have a lawyer by your side.

Demand Letter

You can also have your lawyer write a demand letter. This letter officially lays out what your neighbors must do to fix the problems. It is a last-ditch effort to mend the situation before going to court. The letter will set a specific date by which the matter must be settled. This works best for property issues, noise issues, and the like. A lot of times, a demand letter can be enough to get your neighbors to fix the situation.

Don't Forget to Take Care of Yourself

Stress between neighbors is very difficult to deal with. Your home is supposed to be a place of safety in the world, and when you feel that is endangered in any way, it can add a tremendous amount of stress and anxiety to your life. Talk to your friends, do your research, and get help from outside sources if you feel like you need them. Don't be afraid to reach out if necessary. You deserve to feel safe and secure in your own home.

This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.

© 2018 Teeuwynn Woodruff

Comments

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on August 25, 2020:

I'm very sorry to hear this. It must be awful! My first thought is to get any documentation you can. Can you get motion sensitive cameras to record places you are suspicious they are acting on your property?

Also, can you take your computer or other suspect electronics and get them scanned by a professional company (even places like Best Buy may do this or refer you to who does). Finding concrete evidence would help escalate this to the authorities.

If you need to, moving could help - but it depends upon the reason for the harassment. Is their a nearby neighbor who you do trust who you can ask to help by monitoring, listening, and videoing evidence if they see it?

Please, stay safe.

Harassed in CT on August 21, 2020:

I have a group of neighbors that are giving me a hard time. I have even heard two of their voices in the background of what should have been a private conversation with my cousin. One of the neighbors has a son that is a member of the Coast Guard. Their youngest son has a drone. I have literally seen wires that will tap on my windows coming down from above outside of my house and have seen the drone fly by my windows. These people have done other things as well. It all started with a doorbell cam aimed in my bedroom window. The worst part is many items have been stolen from my house since this all started. There have been other items broken and defaced on the property as well. These particular neighbors have been here a long time and I suspect that they have also worked with the other neighbors on our small dead end street to drive me out of my home. At various points I have been followed outside of my neighborhood by them. It is awful hard to prove a conspiracy exists in your neighborhood but I swear it does. I suspect they have gained access to my home on several occasions and to my computers as well. I only wish I could prove this because they have literally made me feel like I am imprisoned in my own home. Someone has even posted pictures of my car online in an erroneous real estate listing. My personal information has also been posted online. I have reason to suspect there is spyware on my computer and that my car was tampered with. Computer files and accounts have been altered without my consent. I just read another story below about someone enduring neighborhood harassment with a Coast Guard connection. I have to wonder if this is a thing with them. In the meantime I am electronically stalked in my own home as well as outside of it. This sounds crazy and I know it does. I have found checklists of these kind of activities on the net so I know this behavior is possible and I know this behavior is not mine. I feel I am being set up and that at the very least some of my neighbors are involved. This whole thing has driven me into therapy and even my therapist believes someone is messing with me after seeing the pictures of some of the activities that have taken place in my home and the screen shots of what I have had to endure online. I swear these people are out to destroy my sanity as well as my property. This has ruined my relationship and I am afraid that if I leave here this behavior won't stop. How can I protect myself against this in the future? Should bad neighbors cost you your life?

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on June 27, 2020:

Having a neighbor who threatens to destroy your family is terrifying! I'm so sorry. I'm not an expert in what to do here, but I found a couple of decent references in it.

Try this article: https://www.gdlawoffice.net/blog/What-Can-You-Do-i...

Or this one: http://fightcps.com/a-letter-for-your-neighbors-if...

I hope that helps a little.

Teeuwynn

Ross on June 23, 2020:

I have a neighbor who is calling CPS on my kids and i'm not sure what to do. I have 2 kids 8 years old and 5 years old and my 5 year old has autism. He runs away i have to yell to get him to stop and this is why she thinks we are mistreating our kids. I have evidence of her harassing us and then trying to play it off when SHE calls the cops. I ignore her for the most part but i can't anymore she is attacking my kids with CPS. What do i do? I have tried to get a restraing order they just say its not life treating. Treating my kids being taken away is treating when CPS shows up to my house. Please any info would help.

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on April 24, 2020:

This definitely sounds like a nightmare scenario. I'm so sorry. The stress must be insane. Unfortunately, with your harassers having relatives on the police force, that really does make a difference.

Is there any way for you to get out of there? It seems at least partially a family thing and these people don't seem safe, plus they do have the police connection.

Keep getting every scrap of evidence you can on them. You can try talking to your local ACLU for suggestions. They might have ideas in this delicate case. Good luck.

End of the road on April 12, 2020:

I only have limit space to attempt to get across what we are put through 24/7/365 for 8 years now, so let me start by addressing what so many other people say of how to deal with these people in this way or that way.

This family consists of a mother, father and their two twin boys now 13 years old. Her brother is a police officer and his one brother is a police officer. That statement SHOULD speak volumes of why nothing will, or has, ever be/been done. We found out those facts about 3 years into their harassment, threats, stalking, vandalism, etc.

We DO have security cameras and they do little to stop these people (refer back to what their siblings are). Video is only worth anything if law enforcement will view it, which they literally refuse to. We have contacted everyone and anyone about this, we have sent video proof too and it is ignored once it is found out who these people are related to.

We posted no trespassing signs, they ignore them, which is (should be) criminal trespass, but again the videos of them doing it are ignored.

These people use drones, at least two of them, to stalk us. They watch everything we do and I mean everything. If we're in the bathroom at night and turn of the bathroom light they are waiting at their front door and will hit our sliding glass door with rocks to let us know they are watching us. It's amazing they haven't broke the glass because the rocks are not small. They use laser pointers to shine in our windows. When we are outside they use their kids as weapons and shields. They caught our cat and tortured it then the mother had the kids through him into the wood line, I saw them put him there and YES I called everyone and reported it. Nothing was done. Not one person even showed up to investigate it. They throw broken glass, nails, rocks, pieces of concrete and large pieces of rusted metal into out yard, I have to patrol our yard (over an acre) before I mow or let our dog out. The mother openly accused me of harassing her and her kids in front of the other neighbors, fortunately I had a camcorder that I started before I even went outside and it proves, along with our security cameras, I did nothing but take the dog for a walk in our yard to go to the bathroom. They came out after I went out, this is typical and they always say it's me who comes out after they do.

You know the saying "That's just the tip of the iceberg"? What I have typed here is just a couple of snowflakes on an iceberg.

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on April 06, 2020:

That sounds scary. Take video if you can to document his harassment - and stay safe.

Bobby on April 02, 2020:

I have a neigbor that thinks he owns everything around here even the deer. His wicked game playing ways have already run his family off hes trying to run me off my land cause he wants it has threated me and has shot guns up and down fence line on opening day scareing the h e ll out of my uncle they call game warand. He will not leave me alone cause i beleve im the only one who has told the idoir no. His the type y ou give a inch he will take a mile no more. Im done. Plz threatn me @

Kevin on February 05, 2020:

I have neighbors renting next door where i have lived 23 years. My first encouter 2017, i was yelled at by yhe wife while walking my two little dogs. I decided then not to ever engage. This past October, her three kids lost control of their dog and it attacked my sons dog. She came running out of the house calling me a piece of shit and the scourge of the neighborhood. I told her that their dog attacked my son's dog. She called the police and filed a false police report stating my son's dog attacked their dog. I have a neighbor who witnessed their dog running up to where i was walking and attacking my son's dog. Next i receive a vicious animal complaint to which i never responded for obvious reasons. My son's dog is a playful Husky and theirs is a Shepherd. Next animal control shows up about my little dogs being off the leash, i advised them they were inside and have a great day. Then the day after Christmas i received a restraining order containing many false and imagined allegations. In addition, she has been posting disparaging remarks about my family on social media and called my oldest son a "fucking freak" in front of her children..

I am a Registered Nurse for 25 years with no criminal history.

This aggressive screamer is in fear of her life she now states.

Went to court and the judge read her nonsense and stated "something is missing"

Since they are moving August 1, 2020, I decided not to embarass her by presenting my witnesses and not aggravate her already fragile mental health. I agreed to allow a temporary restraining order remain until then as i have nothing to do with them to begin with. The judge advised her the social media postings are illegal and to be "reasonable"

He also advised her to call 911 the next time she feels threatened. She has never called the police because i have literally said 4 words to her since they moved in " your dog attacked mine"

Now, my first encounter with the husband happened this past Sunday morning as I walked out the door he was screaming about me being on their property and to quit threatening his wife and kids??? His children were all there filming it by cell phone. I advised him he was screaming and threatening me and his allegations are not true. I requested he call the police and provide proof. I advised him their dog attacked m son's dog and thst i have a witness. He continued screaming and asked "do you understand me sailor"?

He works for USCG who I've contacted.

He doesn't want me walking down my street, or riding my bicycle or scooter.

I did advise him it is a free country.

They can call 911 anytime they feel its necessary. I now have camera's tracking my movements.

I go to work three days a week saving lives and the other days i ride for Charity raising money for St Judes Children's Research Hospital.

I feel i am being serially harrassed by this family who apparently do not know how to have a "civil" conversation.

I have retained legal counsel and we are preparing a lawsuit against the United States Coast Guard and this family. I have contacted the Coast Guard Public relations office to advise this MUST STOP or a lawsuit is pending. My lawyer has retained all disparaging and defamation threats towards my family she posted on line.

I have lived in Miami since 1960, I'm 62 years old and in my current location 23 years. The majority of my neighbors are great. They are willing to testify on my behslf as well.

Any suggestions???

Kenn on January 05, 2020:

After living with my brother for a few weeks. I found something similar here, except the opposite. They say the neighbor has been filming them, and they are making noise to show their unapproved view point of that. The neighbor has called the cops several times on people in this neighborhood.

The main difference is that arkansas people dont understand the law, while here they do understand it, they just dont care about it.

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on December 31, 2019:

I hope you sell the house soon and am glad you are sleeping better.

Kenn on December 19, 2019:

I have pics of some of the cars, but not the licence plates. We have moved out of state (house not sold just yet). My brother is allowing me to stay with them a while. I am getting sleep now.

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on November 28, 2019:

That's terrible. I'm glad you put the camera up. Do you have video recorded to show the police evidence of this activity? I don't suppose there's any way to place your camera so you can catch any licence plates?

Kenn on November 21, 2019:

Mom not wanting to move out without selling house. Another possibility now shows itself, when I put a camera outside to record anyone passing by. Most of them seemed to vanish, except 1 small black car. It passed by where the camera was - 6 times, to try and see what kind it was. He seems to be the boss or something of the others. Maybe even the one who has been paying the people to harass us. After a few days they began doing the usual again, driving by making as much noise as possible all night long, possibly to get us to drop the house price so that they can grab it at lower value. Some of them have modified mufflers to make as much noise as a motorcycle, in the night this will wake anyone. We have not gotten much sleep in days.

Kenn on October 23, 2019:

The house has been up for sale for a while now, looking at the site to check some accuracy, I found that someone has been hacking and changing data about our house.

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on October 23, 2019:

These neighbors sound potentially dangerous and paranoid. Is there any way you can move?

Kenn on October 19, 2019:

and now i found out they have long range listening devices that hear thru walls, and have been hearing me cuss them out after they harass us. So, they continue to harass. The police wont do much. When the guy stopped out front and pulled out his gun, someone inside told him to get back in. The FBI wont do anything (say its a police matter).

and i thought such devices were illegal, apparently they are sold main stream by Amazon. Now most neighbors are hearing everything we say about them!

Kenn on October 12, 2019:

Now he has someone flying weekly over our house dropping some chemical (we think its something to fight bugs in crops like DDT). Once after hearing the plane I did not think anything of it and went out with my dogs, and this fine mist hit me in the face. A minute later I was falling on the ground semi conscious, my head was spinning.

Stephanie on October 04, 2019:

This is all very helpful information and I thank you whole-heartedly for the information. Would you by chance happen to know what type of lawyer I should contact?

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on September 22, 2019:

How terrible! It sounds like you are living in a very dangerous situation. If you can't move, can you set up cameras facing their entire side of the house? Also, take pictures of any BBs you find in your yard in place and then pick them up using a paper bag - don't touch them. Also, if you could get a picture of the screen with the damage obviously coming from the inside that would help, but I know that may not be safe to do.

Can you afford a discussion with a private detective if the police are not helping you? It's another option.

Finally, any time you talk to this family, make sure your phone is set up to record. Depending on the state you live in, you will have to disclose to your neighbor that you are recording the conversation. Some states allow one party recording and some states don't.

Please be safe and let me know if you make any progress!

Tina on September 14, 2019:

Im living next door to a very hateful cuban family of 5 mother dad and 3 boys. They have been harassing me since last yr and shot my dogs 2 times each with a bb gun in there own backyard i called animal control they did nothing . my 12 yr old dog has the bb mark scar still on his foot. Today i was out mowing my grass and now im accused of shooting with a gun there boys windows. Ok for one both there parents vehicles were gone b mom came home at 12:30pm went inside and came back out and took pictures of a big bb hole in there kids window mind you and the screen on the window was up all the way and screen has no hole in it. When i was mowing i noticed that there front window blinds were closed thats a indication that the kids are home alone,ages 13 12 10 they are saying i shot their window ok i saw the window while i was mowing it had no hole in it and the screen was down on it. So if i shot which i would never do i dont own a gun the screen would have a hole in it too which it doesnt. So mom told boys after she shot a hole from the inside of the house through the window that the boys seen me do it. I confronted her mom in there backyard and told her i was mowing my grass she said bullshit her sons saw me. The bbs these people use are bigger than the tiny silver bbs i have found colored ones they have shot at my animals in my front and backyard. That is the size of the the hole in the window,clearly you can see the shot was made from inside. These people have guns real ones too and let there 12 yr old carry a machette around in there back yard when im in my backyard my dogs are afraid of them and they killed my black cat. The police came 3 of them i was out walking my dogs at the park i saw the police on my way there. Mom is a abitual liar they mock me for serving Jesus and just want me gone even if they have to kill me. They poisoned one of my cats have broke in and stole money ect.

Kenn on August 23, 2019:

This neighbor now has over 20 others all harassing us. I have sent the info to a TV news channel and they ignore it. I posted in the neighborhood online chat section about it, and some agree with me, while the majority ignore it, and some even mocked me. People drive by, they have their windows wide open, and when they get to our house they crank up the volume with base and blast their noise, as they leave. I even saw the neighbor tell (age 59) telling his kids (in their 30s) to do the same thing, as they left his house they also did it. They do it all day long, every half hour, and all night long, so we cant sleep much. Still the police wont do much, except to tell them to stop it.

Kenn on August 21, 2019:

i am wondering if we can somehow explain that harassment is a form of Hate Crime. The police seem to do more about that type of crime.

Lisa on July 14, 2019:

I have problem with my next door neighbor T when five years ago, his girlfriend P warned me about T that he gets angry at everything. He started welding sandblast adhesive on his driveway. Sandblast spread out in the air and it landed my property and my vegetable garden. I went over to talk to T but T was very angry and yelled with saliva spread out at me. I wrote my letter to explain situation to T. He continued to do welding. I called police. Police do nothing. I called air quality department and spoke to T about it. T continued to do welding. I set up camera and I take pictures. Police and Air Quality Dept. do nothing. T threw grapes at my property and my driveway for three weeks. Police didn't presses charge to him for vandalism. Several times, T came to my property to post his notes on my door and my car. Police didn't presses charge for trespass. T put his solar lights on my property without permission. I took his solar lights. He called police and proof my old letter and solar (he lied to police). Police arrested me for thief and trespass (police didn't tell me about my letter). I learned about my letter and explained to my lawyer. My arrest and ticket dismissed. T continued to do welding for two years. I hired my lawyer to found law code about sandblast adhesive more than 25 feet in the air and Air quality dept finally stopped him and told him about arrest or ticket or get covered either. He stopped doing welding outside. (He has garage and do welding inside). He still is angry, flips, kick my statue five times. Last week he put his trash can (no trash day) in front of my house and left it overnight. He came out and was angry and flipped. Now he installed his security camera to point at my backyard and my side of my house. I feel no private. I wrote summary note and posted on my property to leave me alone. He read it. He couldn't touch my note or he couldn't go on my property. He continues to yell and flip me. I believe he easier lose temper, angry and do violate things (break things). I don't know what to do. Police do nothing. That took five years and he still continues to yell, kick my statue, put his trash can and flips at me. I ignore him.

Kenn on June 04, 2019:

House did not sell. We still live across street from Ronnie. A few days ago new neighbor (#4) comes over to tell us some news in neighborhood - neighbor on her other side (#6) committed suicide.

About 5-6 yrs ago, (#6) moves in after loosing most everything in Tornado of 2014. A few weeks of working on new home, he falls off roof and supposedly breaks his neck. His wife moves in to help pay bills, they get mobile home. Last year doctor says he has cancer and wont live more then a few months. His wife gets 2nd job to pay for things. A few weeks ago, he gets angry and blames her for everything, threatens to divorce her. She hung herself. We saw the ambulance come back then, but were just now told what it was for.

Yes, I do have camera and have some films of him and antics, and some of the other things people have been doing in here. I had posted them to YouTube and made a small collection. You has taken many of those type of films off line in the last few months (including mine). I have shown them to the police thru and email. Most ignore it saying not our jurisdiction. We have had the police over about 5 times, each time they tell us - he has rights too, and nothing gets done. Its a marijuana state and they just let things go here. I think many of them voted to get it in, not realizing how much that drug lowers intelligence and makes this state 46 of 50 in nation.

Hi Teeuwynn on June 02, 2019:

Thanks for your good advice. Do you have any ideas on how to evidence neighbour harassment with a gang of neighbours (who I believe are being paid) to harass me using excessive infrared and microwave devices? They're almost certainly using thermal imaging to find where I am and then targeting my body so that my kidneys are effectively being cooked. Whatever device they're using is able to penetrate walls.

Kind regards

Fliss Stanford

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on May 24, 2019:

This sounds like a horrific situation, but please don't let your anger, fear, and frustration lead you to violence. Make sure you have your lines taped so if he calls again you can document it. (If you are in a two-party state, you will have to tell him you are taping.) Really, though, with this situation and such an unresponsive landlord it's probably best to move if you can.

Also, if you think the cameras are in the ceiling, can you take some foamcore or other item that won't harm the ceiling and block it in the meantime?

Again, violence is only going to backfire on you in the long run and this man and his family will win.

Teeuwynn

noblepuker on May 23, 2019:

I see i'm not alone. YOU guys all have it made. My nightmare is deadly serious with multi death threats to my family & me.

I live in a 4-plex (alone) and have no idea what i did to make #4 so angry. He's alone as well. I never see guests. Either he or a visitor uses what i think is a soundboard. Repeating things over and over (through the wall), even outside my window at 3am, changing it up actively with 4 dif voices. Two male, two female (i'm NOT on drugs, this is really happening).

To my horror, he has also installed cameras in my bed & living room !! ..YES, cameras.

Apt #4 is the only one with attic access. While at work, this asshole has went up and installed a couple very small cams that i cant seem to find (this is a 1940 ranch home divided into 4 apts, Has tons of old nail holes and cracks in ceiling. I need attic access, but my landlord has already warned me to not bother #4, ...isnt that effed up. See what i mean? Everyone sides with the dying old man. I think some loyal family member of his has taken the reins.

Camera proof:The guy has actually told me exactly what i was doing, where i was standing. He's told me to move the ashtray on my bed,..i moved it, and he said 'good boy'. Hes told me the color of my cup etc, and he isnt using windows.

..."STOMP HIM" ?? ..my thoughts exactly. Day 2 of his 10 day campaign, I went over and banged on his door till he answered. I'm 50yrs old ( but still got some zip). I was angry enough to deal with ANY man. I would've fought mike tyson if he answered. Instead, i'm greeted by an old man named Paul. He's wearing an exterior kidney or something strapped to his chest that has visible tubes of blood going in/out of a box. UGH. He denies anyone else being in his apt (which is bullshit, unless HE's doing it. Unless HE has me completely duped). If it is HIM, im in deep trouble. No ones gonna believe me. The landlord didn't...."That's Paul, he's old man. He goes to my church.Why would he be harassing you?" - my landlord says.

This is an effing NIGHTMARE.

...if i dont play my cards right, it will be ME going to jail. I'll get run out of town if i beat up a dying old man. Strangers who catch wind of a guy who beats up old men will find and stomp ME.

"Call the cops" ???.. i considered it, even told this loser i would. He said if i did, he'd kill my sister. Then told me exactly where she lives. The guy knows my complete name so these things wouldnt be hard to discover. I wouldn't call cops anyway. I'm a single man with nothing to lose really, but i wont allow harm to my sister. This guys got balls, and right now,..he's got me pretty good.

I warned him of this 'game' escalating, and the likely outcome..BAD for us both.

He's been silent for 4 weeks now...but he'll start again. I'm not letting it go. No one is going to do that and get away with it. My off grid investigation has led me to a mike, who is related. I MUSt be sure i have the right guy tho. I dont want to stomp some inncocent man. Next up, i'm going to follow paul, see what his routine is..discover HIS family. ESCALATING fast, and i dont want to do this.

John on May 08, 2019:

I live in a home owners association which created a civil disturbance and refuse to addressed the issue I have called the police follow police case number for false report harassment is steal the homeowners association in it's attorney will not addressed the letters they have sent me. So now I have to resolve the problem.

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on April 26, 2019:

That sounds absolutely horrible. It's a travesty that people like you feel forced out of their own homes rather than having protection from the authorities. Good luck and try to get video or audio evidence if they approach you again. You could even have your friends video their approach to your house to show they aren't trespassing. (Note that if you are in a two-party taping state your neighbor needs to know you are taping if he/she is in the tape.)

Pamela Tash on April 25, 2019:

For 20 years, I lived across the street from a sweet, elderly couple. They both passed away a few years ago and their son sold the property to a local businessman, who it turns out, is not quite the upstanding citizen that he presents himself to be.

For 2 years now, the police, fire and ambulance have made monthly calls to the house across the street from my home. The father exposes himself in public, the mother has a substance abuse problem, the teenage son has mental heath issues and the teenage girl is allowed to dress like a prostitute, get on the bus and goes to school.

The mother can be heard dropping F-Bombs with regularity and the middle-finger salute is her preferred greeting. The teenage boy has threatened to run over a pregnant woman with his ATV and both children race up and down the road on them.

The parents have directed verbal vulgarities at us as they drive past in their cars, while we are out in our front yard. We have moved our rural route mailbox 50 feet away from the communal mailbox area to avoid ANY contact with them at all.

The woman calls the police to report that we are trespassing on her property when we have people visit us. The police arrived and they classified the matter as 'petty'. We have been made a target and it is frightening, to say the least.

I thought that I had found sanctuary in the home I now own and planned to not ever leave. Now I have different plans. I'm going to sell my house to someone who is ten times nastier than them and leave this neighborhood with a double-middle-finger-salute of my own. I wish...

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on March 07, 2019:

That is horrendous. Your neighbor sounds truly dangerous. Keep documenting when you can. Do you have any cameras that can catch them if they try to sabotage your car or other property again? Have you filed police reports yourself? It's a real shame your house isn't selling, as this person sounds like a serious criminal.

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on March 07, 2019:

So true! When you have someone next to you who is crazy the stress invades your entire life! So sorry you have to move. Hopefully, your next neighborhood will be better.

Kenn on March 05, 2019:

We (me 55 and mom 78) moved in here (Vilonia, Arkansas) 13 years ago (May 2006). Ronnie (age 58) moves in across street (Oct 2016). He puts up his mailbox smoking his "stuff" (we think it was marijuana). We believe he grows his own and uses it. Neighborhood Boy (age 16) tells us one day, everyone loves his "stuff". We are guessing, his family and other neighbors. His mother (Lady) asked Boy to check in on Ronnie as he was an older man. They have been getting along very well, Boy even setup computer and connected him to internet for Ronnie. We looked up some info about Ronnie at Truthfinder, it said he has 3 arrest records. We did not spend money to see what they were. He also tells us he owns a gun. After 18 months, we hear from 1 neighbor that Ronnie paid off his house in full ($80,000) and his parole officer will no longer have to check up on him.

Lady from down block (age 30-40) orders cable for her house (Dec 2016). There are lines under ground for all cable lines to every house. New cable guy is sent out to install it. He puts a cable across our front yard and cement driveway from 1 cable box to another. He claims he will come back to bury the lines. We told him to remove them and install it correctly. 3 days later nothing is done, on the way to the store we back out of driveway and the lines get cut. Lady who works for lawyer claims we harassed her, by cutting her cable lines. She came over to our house and publicly shamed my mom in front of all people passing by on highway. I was inside working on computer at the time. For a week after the Lady walked in front of our house back and forth swinging her weights and talking with a Girl who lived near her. I made a video of them harassing my mom, because she only came by to do it, when mom was out working in the front yard.

This is how it partly started. The other part - Girl from down block came over looking for yard work job from my mom. Mom said no as she did the lawn to keep in shape. During her chat she also was talking about other things like neighbors. Mom told her the neighbor across street (Ronnie) is harassing us, and uses people to get things he wants done, like fixing his van. Mom said predator, and the Girl tells Lady that mom said Pedophile. She lied to get even with mom. That is when they came marching down here to harass us. In the mail, we got a letter from the lawyer she works for, claiming they are filing harassment charges on mom.

Months later, (we believe) Ronnie sent Boy (tall and thin) over to vandalize our van. The fuel injection cord was pulled out from making the connection to start up the van. The tires were also damaged with slow leaks that did not show up for a week. We called the car repair man from town, he sent someone to start it as we thought the battery was dead since the van did not start. As they changed the battery, and could not start it, they had to tow it in. As they were towing the van from our driveway, the Boy and Ronnie were laughing their heads off across the street. The tow truck guy was wondering what was so funny. It cost us $400 for the fix as they had to move the gas tank to reconnect the fuel line.

Since that day they have been adding friends and growing in the amount of things they do. We get drive-byes during all hours of the day and even late at night when most are sleeping. They player their noisy radios to excessive at max volume BOOM, BOOM, or they cut holes in their mufflers to max out the noise as they zoom up the hill and wake us at all hours. They recently started cutting off our internet, and adding fake charges to our credit reports. We have had the house up for sale for many years, no one buying in this area.

The Vigil Family on March 05, 2019:

We have a horrible neighbor. This lady is off her rocker crazy! We have put our house up for sale and cannot wait to be away from her! I pray for anyone dealing with horrible neighbors. It’s a dark world we live in!

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on February 20, 2019:

That sounds like a horrible situation. Given just how bad your neighbors are, it seems like moving probably is the best solution. But it's unfair you have to go to such extremes to get away from such people.

Rob6602 on February 19, 2019:

I have the worst neighbors of all they are liers and stalkers they went as far as to call town hall and put a plane together to make up a lie to have me arrested on fake lies and she had originally said to cops I threaten her with a gun Wich of I don't own one to begin but anyway I was asrested and charged with disturbing the peace I went to court I had 6 witness and all proof but some how judge believed her lie and I'm on 6 months probation while this was happening my dad passed away and now I'm dealing with her still harassment and my loos of my dad I can't even go outside with out someone with me just to walk the dog or cut the grass shovel snow I'm 52 yes old and can't go out side to sit or baraque a burger because her and her husband stalk me and harassing me cops in this town won't do anything and mayor is just as cruked I'm so depressed and have a ton of anxiety I'm even in coulsing now because of all this stuff a big lie anyone have any advice I'm moving out of my home I've lived in for 52 yes all my life I have no privacy they have lites and cameras pointed at my house and if I go anywhere with family and friends they fallow me stalking me is really bad sometime I think if I wasn't here they can't fallow me there right but I have my wife to worry about and my dog he is my heart I'm lost and don't see the lite at the end of the tunnel I'm hopping I can possibly move and they don't fallow me maybe I should move out of state to get away from these syco people anyway thanks for listening hope you read this and don't ever cross there paths if you want to email me it's blueeys6602@gmail.com good luck hope you all don't have sycos like me harassing you it's not fun at all cost me over 2500 dollars and we all know justice system don't work for insonant people only liers and bad people win it use to be insonant until proven guilty but now your guilty to proven insonant or why would you be in hand cuffs and why would you need a layer not justice anymore

Dannidee on November 30, 2018:

Thank you for your insight. Your rational voice is helpful!

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on November 10, 2018:

I hope she has stopped landscaping your yard, as that is illegal. The driving issue is difficult as there is nothing illegal about it. It is just mean and rude. She sounds like she has some sort of weird control issues that I doubt are going to get fixed at her age. I assume there's no other way you can go to double around her when she does this. It must be incredibly frustrating to deal with such petty behavior.

Dannidee on November 08, 2018:

My neighbor was never really a bother until his girlfriend moved in around 15 years ago. The girlfriend immediately started landscaping parts of our property and wouldn't stop after being confronted multiple times. Although she has admittedly received multiple speeding tickets, she seems to enjoy driving exceptionally slow when I'm behind her; especially when I'm trying to get to work on time. Since she is driving to work too; I suspect her start time isn't as early as mine or she enjoys harassing me enough that she doesn't care if she is late too. Typically I leave much sooner than her so it is not usually a problem, but when she leaves slightly before me, she races to leave her driveway first and to make sure that she drives fast enough to cut me off when I try to take a short cut. If she is able to cut me off, she will drive slowly again. If I pull out before she does, I at least drive at a decent speed. I would never rush to leave first if I planned to drive much slower. She has to be pushing 60 years of age, so there doesn't seem to be any hope of her growing up. I'm in my 40s and don't have the time or patience for childish games; I just want to get to where I need to go on time. We have hardly spoken to our neighbor over that last 15 years because of his live in girlfriend.

Cindy McMahon on September 15, 2018:

These neighbors from hell are probably criminals. The ones I have living around me are. They are part of a burglary ring AND vehicle theft ring!

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on September 10, 2018:

I'm glad the camera worked for you. They can definitely be very helpful.

Middy May on September 02, 2018:

I have neighbors from hell and the police will do nothing. They try at first then they roll their eyes and dub u a nut case. I put up a security camera and didn't mention it to any of them and then gathered evidence and THEN told them. Boy they stopped doing their crap real fast especially when they realized I had what i needed to hang them.

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on June 14, 2018:

Linda,

This sounds like a terrible situation and the police aren't helping you. You sound like you are suffering targeted harassment. Do you have any other neighbors who are witnesses or who are also being harassed? Or are you on your own?

Have you called the local city hall or prosecutor's office to see if there is a place to go for free legal advice or possible representation. You may be able to get help filing a restraining order that way. It's not a complicated legal procedure. It could be a first step.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. It's never right for people to treat each other like this.

Teeuwynn

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on June 14, 2018:

Annette,

That sounds like a very serious situation. I'm so sorry you are going through this! Is is possible for you to put any cameras where they can monitor your yard so you can get actual proof of your neighbor on your yard?

Also, if your neighbor puts garbage on your yard and any of it has their name on it make sure to take pictures and call the police immediately without moving it. (Take pictures and call the police regardless.)

You may want to call your city hall and see if there is a unit or group that works with neighbor rights.

Have any of your neighbors seen this abuse or unlawful behavior or also been attacked? If so, that might strengthen your case.

Again, I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. It's terrible not to feel safe in your home.

Linda C. on June 06, 2018:

I am currently going through neighbors from the 7th Ring of Dante's Inferno... the neighbors don't mess with my Children because both of mine are adults and moved on to their own homes. It's just 'me' & my two Tibetans (one a Service Dog the other is a Companion to her & me). They've Cut half my Front yard tree off, Thrown huge kids balls at my house at the crack of dawn, rocks at my house, Trespassed by jumping of a Seatrain in their yard into my backyard 'to look for their cat' which they won't keep all 6-7 cats in their own home, (they're only allowed 3 by County Laws); vandalized my 3 cars by puncturing the tires on one, and letting the air out thru the tire stems on the other two, after being told by the Police to put security cameras up to 'film them' running past my windows shining flashlights & infrared lights into my windows they began throwing rocks & glass & metal connectors at the 'cameras & windows & outdoor lights' ruining the window screens & breaking the outdoor light bulbs & brackets. Then started throwing trash in the back yard & shining a floodlight into my upstairs bedroom window! All the while this is going on... Cursing, swearing, giving me the finger, and indecently exposing himself! So Police 'haven't helped' except to say, "you need to file a restraining order' or 'get a lawyer'... which I can't afford. And it just goes on and on.

Yes, I am scared to bits every night I go to bed!

Annette Hellingrath on June 06, 2018:

I've lived in my house for almost 24 years. About six or seven years ago a new neighbor moved in behind me. At first he was very nice and polite and talked to me about my dog, etc. Then one day he started throwing garbage into my yard. I caught him at it once and wrote him a letter asking him to stop. After that he came into my yard whenever he felt like it, rearranged my furniture and other garden stuff. I put up No Trespassing signs which he took down while trespassing. I then wrote No Trespassing on a door which I nailed to a tree. He took the door down several times after I put it back up and eventually just stole it. I called the police several times but they believe his lies which are backed up by his wife and son. I live alone. He then tried to run me and my dog over while we were crossing the street one night. No witnesses of course. Later in the year he sped up while I was crossing the street from my house to the sidewalk. He came so close that I felt part of the car on my leg. He stopped the car to smile at me before driving away. I didn't bother calling the police those times. He also talks to neighbors about me and they tell me the awful lies he tells them about me. They know better. Today I decided to quickly walk my dog around the block to dry him off. I had just shampooed him and didn't want a wet dog in my house. Unfortunately I decided to walk past this neighbor's house after I failed to see him outside. The first I knew he was on his driveway was when he started yelling. He had been on his hands and knees working on bricking in his driveway and had tied his dog to a lawn chair beside him. The dog had started to come towards us dragging the chair behind it. My neighbor had tried to grab the chair and fallen on his stomach. He starts yelling that my dog is stupid and nothing but trouble and to keep him away from him. I yelled back that my dog had done nothing wrong that he might consider tying his dog to something more solid. He then called me a stupid asshole, a fatso, a f---ing bitch and a disgrace to the neighborhood. (by the way, I'm not fat, he is) I called him a few choice names and kept walking. By the time I was at the end of the s street he was still yelling. What can I do about this constant abuse?

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on April 08, 2018:

Thank you. This is certainly not a subject I wanted to learn about!

Larry W Fish from Raleigh on April 08, 2018:

I am so sorry that you have neighbors from hell. I have lived various places in my lifetime and I had great neighbors and bad neighbors. I never had any as bad as what you are going through.

Teeuwynn Woodruff (author) from Washington State on April 08, 2018:

Thank you! Your friend sounds like she had a good idea. That's one of the reasons we put the cameras around our house.

Louise Powles from Norfolk, England on April 07, 2018:

I'm sorry to hear about the problems you've been having with your neigbours, and you've given some good advice. Thankfully, I've always had good neigbours, and hope this continues. A friend of mine has recently been having problems with her neighbours, and she took a secret video of an altercation she had with them the other day - in case she needs to use it as evidence!