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What I Hate About Selling a Home

Updated on May 12, 2017
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Have You Put Your House On The Market Lately?

Things I hate about selling a house “EVERYTHING". Absolutely hate it. We have put two homes on the market. I have to tell you I can't stand the buyers or the real estate agents we have had to deal with. They can both be a nightmare. This hub is about all the stress we went through trying to sell homes. Homes we loved and thought other people should love. They don't love your home only you do. You love the gardens you worked so hard on, they don't. You think you're decorating is great, they hate it.

Someone told us we had to bury St. Joseph upside down in the garden. He was supposed to help sell the house. I think he actually worked on the first house. It sold soon after we put him in the ground.

House No: 1

I hate keeping the house spotlessly clean. My house is clean, but when selling a home you do need to keep it spotless everything should be clean and smelling good and freshened up. Counter tops are cleared and items are put away. You know the deep corner cleaning. Kitchen drawers should be very clean because they will be looking in them. Stove and refrigerator cleaned if you’re leaving it behind.

There are buyers who don't like your decorating and for some odd reason they think they‘re buying the decor too. I didn't decorate for them and I removed everything I thought would be too personal. My decorating is not staying with the house.

Trying to find the items I have put away later on wasn't easy. I would stuff things in every place I could so they could not see it, like hiding under beds and placing in baskets.

There are realtors who call at the last minute to show our house or just pop in. I had to stop them. I just got to the point where I wouldn't allow it.

I hate my realtor acting like I’m the bad guy.

I hate the real-estate company changing my realtor without letting us know and not giving us a chance to pick who we wanted. Not only did I not like the realtor they gave us. I knew her and she was selling her house which was pretty close to the same as ours. Whose house do you think she will show?

We had items disappearing from our home and not knowing about it until later. We had a camera disappear at one house. Take your valuables with you when you leave the house. We later heard our realtor had taken money from places.

Our realtor didn’t show our house in a year until it was time to renew and suddenly we have someone looking at the house, now you know it’s just another realtor.

We finally sold the house ourselves within two months without any markdown in price. We got so sick of realtors with this house we finally just put it in the paper ourselves. It took about two months. The realtor had it on the market for two years.

Don't Like Decor.

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House No 2:

It's so hard gathering up all the pets and putting them in the car and leaving the house for God only knows how long.

Realtors bringing her kids and letting them run through our house and hang out by the lake while she’s showing the house. I’m sure the customers were not thrilled with having kids running around while they're trying to talk with the realtor. We sure weren't and we let the real estate company know. I was lucky my neighbor said to bring the pets and your car over here and stay until we see them leave. We could sit at her kitchen table and look right over at our house without anyone seeing us. That’s how I found out about the realtor’s kids being there. If the realtor's kids had fallen in the lake or pond she would have sued us. Make it clear you don't want the realtor to bring her kids.

The realtors were not pointing out what was good about the house. Make your own list of things you want to be shown in your house. Leave it on the counter with a dish of cookies.

Realtors were not telling us what the people liked or disliked about the house, giving us no feedback at all.

Letting kids go into our private items, had nothing to do with the house, so afraid of the customer and not speaking up for us. This happened often and there is no excuse for it. If it's a dresser it's not staying with the house. They have no business going into your private items.

Being late for an appointment or not showing up at all, happened many times.

They left doors open and did not turn off lights. Sometimes we would walk back into our house not knowing if the realtor had been there or not. Make it clear to the realtor to leave a note or one of her cards letting you know they had been in your house.

I was in the real estate office to sign final papers and the buyer jumps all over me about something he was sure we had done at the house. I was by myself my husband couldn’t be there. Never go alone take someone with you or make sure your husband is there. You need him to protect you. This man was crazy and mean. My realtor takes up for him to the point where I finally stood up and said “Fine then I guess you haven’t bought a house.” His wife was going to go crazy over this because I knew she wanted the house. I won't tell you how I knew she wanted it so bad. Both realtors were upset because it meant no money in their pockets. They changed their attitudes very fast.

I see this bully around town ever so often and I still do not speak to him. People on the lake don't like him. He thinks they can't fish in their boats in front of the house. There are very few people I dislike completely but this man I can't stand.

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Not Selling
Not Selling

House Sold

We sold our second house through the realtor, but by the time the buyer tried to pay $10,000.00 less we were so mad at everything which happened we said “No, take it or leave it at this price” They took it even though they tried to con us into more stuff later.

We learned one lesson, sell your house as is, and “promise nothing, nothing at all." If you say you will remove all items from property they will come up with things not connected to the house and you never expected to have to move.

This buyer told our realtor we had thrown all our stuff into the lake concrete blocks etc. and he wanted us to remove it because we had promised to remove all things around the house. We didn't throw the blocks in the lake they had been put there the year the boathouse was built by whoever built the boathouse in the 1930s. Our realtor took his side. We were not going to remove something we hadn't put there and have the DNR come down on our heads and fine us for disturbing the lake. Many years before when we bought the property we had tried to clear the block out of the lake but the DNR wouldn't let us.

Boat House

The day I left the realtor office and after papers were signed. I was so mad and upset I went to the house to start to remove things I knew needed to be removed. I went in our boathouse and started throwing things out the door, (Little Temper Here). Now let me tell you our boathouse was always full of dock spiders. I didn't like them and when I would see one I would be out of the boathouse, but this day if those spiders had got in my way I would have grabbed them by their legs and they would have gone flying out of the boathouse just like the rest of the stuff.

We had another day to get things out of the house.

Second house on Youtube

I see our old house on YouTube now. They're trying to sell it again. My husband loved this house because he built it from scratch. Hated to sell it but when retirement was looming we knew we could not afford the taxes on a lake.

Remember you are hiring the Real Estate Co. you are the one paying them from the money you get from your home. You are the boss, not the buyers. If you don't like the real estate company get rid of them. We had problems with all the companies we went with. Each one pulled their own little tricks.

We really were too nice and never complained when we should have with the first house. With the second house, we did let them know when we were not happy. I'm sure they didn't like us, but we didn't care.

This is not my décor in this Youtube video.

What You Should Tell Your Realtor.

  1. Don't bring extra people or kids to showing
  2. Take off shoes
  3. Leave your card or a note before leaving house.
  4. Turn off lights and lock doors.
  5. Don't let kids or grown-ups into my private thing.
  6. Don't call at the last minute.
  7. Give me feedback good or bad if you don't you're done..
  8. Stop asking me a hundred times to drop the price.



On The Lake
On The Lake
Back Yard
Back Yard

The Final Sale.

Be ready to be upset over things which happen with your house. People move in they don't like what you like. The first house we sold was the house our children grew up in. We had worked on the yard for 24 years. It was beautiful. We had a white lilac bush outside the window. When the bush would bloom the wonderful smell of it would come in the window. We also had a mountain ash tree on the sidewalk by the drive. It always had birds in it, a beautiful tree and not an easy tree to grow in this area. They cut both the bush and the tree down, almost as soon as they moved in. My husband talked to the man who bought the house and ask him why he had cut the tree. We were just curious why he would get rid of a tree. His words "I didn't like all the birds."

We had a large cement porch with planters on one side of the house. They tore it out and put in a wood deck when there was already a covered screened in patio. To each his own!

Our second house was on the property my parents had once owned. It had a cottage on it. We took down the cottage and built the house. My Dad had been so excited about us building this house. He wanted us to fix a bedroom on the lower floor for him and mother. We did that, one with a big window he could look out at the lake as soon as he got up in the morning. He died the year we built the house.

There was not much about the house the buyers liked. I have no idea why they bought it. They tore up my front garden and took it out completely. They removed a pond in the yard. We had a pond which was established and took very little care. They hated it. We loved the pond and our grandkids loved it. This buyer wanted us to remove things like trellises I had up for our flowers.

Tell me your house selling or buying experience.

I know there are always problems with buying a house too. If you ask the people who bought our second house they would very likely blame us.

Anything that went wrong with the second house the owners would call my husband to come and fix it. I finally told him that was enough they could take care of their own problems.It was never anything we had done wrong with the house it was always something they just couldn't fix or didn't know how to fix.

Funny Thing Happened.

My brother-in-law was selling his place and the people who bought it was the same people who bought our second house. I warned him about them. While he was out of state they called him because their water froze and they wanted him to fix it. He's out of state how was he going to fix it. They left the place without heat while they went to Arizona which is a very big reason why pipes froze. They are two grown people who don't know how to handle their own problems or they try to get things done free.

Craigslist Didn't Always Exist.

I had a person come on here and called me an idiot because I didn't sell my house on Craigslist. There was no Craigslist at the time. These young people they think Craigslist has always existed and they have no problem calling people names. Bless their hearts.

My complaining about realors and now my daughter just got her license.

I recently bought my last home. This time everything went pretty good.

Have you had problems getting your house sold?

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      moonlake 4 weeks ago from America

      R. Brown

      I'm not sure who your giving all the advice to.We live in a small town so we knew exactly who our realtors were and how they were doing selling homes. Our problems weren't with our realtor but with realtors that showed our homes.

      I'm not sure what you mean about the decorating.

      Thanks for stopping by.

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      R. Brown 4 weeks ago

      Chances are if you have a problem with everyone and everything, including taking offense or even taking the time to comment on how the future buyer decorates, you are probably looking at the problem when you look in the mirror. Take a step back and think of every job you have done in life, and realize that you were far from perfect at many of those jobs, no matter how passionate and committed and skilled you may have been at the time. But, as a person, you probably made mistakes along the way somewhere, allowed yourself to get too busy when you needed a break, ran behind to an appointment, overlooked a minor detail. And I'd venture to say, like everyone else in the world, you've probably made mistakes often or have quirks about the way you do certain things. Guess what? The person you hired to sell your house is a person also, and they work in a people driven business that is centered around the customers' most personal asset with emotions often running high or low. And, if you hired an agent with a track record of being successful, you hired someone who often works in that environment 7 days a week, and not just an hour or two a day. No. No. They work 12, 14, 18 hours a day, 7 days a week, and probably 51 weeks out of the year. Fortunately the customers that aren't like you are what inspire them to keep going back everyday.

      Next comes accountability. You were in charge of hiring the agent you listed with. In most cities and towns across the US, and world for that matter, there are no shortage of real estate agents. There is, however, a shortage of good ones. It's your house, you want to sell it, you are in charge of hiring an agent and asking the right questions. If you hired a bad one, the only person to blame is the same one in that mirror who has no room for human error or differences in design and personality from one person to the next. And, it's so simple to ask the right questions. You can google it if you need to but common sense should guide you through that interview with questions like: "How many homes did you sell last year?" or "What percentage of your sales are listings v. buyers?" or "What is your average sale price and how does that compare to my neighborhood?" or "When you aren't available to show my house, do you have a team member or associate that can help you?" or "What is your average list to sale price ratio and average days on the market currently?" or "What do you like best about my house?" and "How would you improve it?" or "Tell me about your marketing package and do you have samples?" or "How long have you been selling real estate as a full time agent?" and "How long have you been with your brokerage and have you worked for others?" and "Tell me about the market right now in my neighborhood." And, drum roll....... in case they don't ask: "My main reason for selling my home is ______, and when it sells, I will be moving to _______. I have _____ # of months to be there. I value honesty and therefore I am being upfront with you and want to know if you feel like that is a reasonable goal that I have."

      Guess what you will have just done? 1) Identified if they are a full time, busy agent with other business. If so, they probably sell at least 20 homes per year. 2) You'll know if the homes they sell are similar to yours, your price range and if they are knowledgeable about the current market. If you aren't selling a luxury home, you don't need a luxury agent. 3) You'll know if they are honest and you'll let them know that you are by being upfront about your reason for selling. Nobody likes a guessing game and most agents aren't mind readers. If the agent can't tell you something they'd change or improve about your house, that is a tell tale sign that they aren't being upfront. Of course your house isn't perfect, especially to someone who has seen hundreds of homes in a matter of months. 4) Good agents know their numbers. They know how long their listings take to sell and they should be negotiating deals at a higher than average list/sale ratio on their listings. If they are quick and accurate with those numbers, you are probably talking to someone who is a quick thinker and seasoned professional. 5) When experience matters, hire an agent who has been working as a full time agent for at least 5 years. It never hurts to check references either. 6) There are sleazy agents, just like there are doctors, lawyers, small business owners and corporate execs. If you find yourself easily smooth talked into deals, don't meet with them alone. Make sure your spouse is there or have a friend or neighbor sit in if you live on your own.

      Most people will agree that the lack of standards or requirements to obtain a real estate license give it a bad name. But remember that while there may be sleazebag agents and inexperienced part timers, there are also dedicated professionals who know what they are doing and will guard your hard earned equity, represent you with integrity and make your goal their priority. Now, if you treat every agent poorly because you think you can do a better job at everything from cleaning house to heart surgery, and interior design to politics or selling real estate to managing the local grocery store, you may find the same experiences repeating themselves no matter who you hire to do any job.

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      Brenda 5 months ago

      I am TRYING to get my house sold. I hate it. My husband is in California already and I am stuck here till the house sells. In this God forsaken town there are over 5,000 houses on the market. I will never own a house again, never! For the simple reason I don't ever want to go thru this selling process again.

      We have had only one offer. And they decided to go with a new build.

      And when the contract with the first agent expired agents were dying to get us to sign with them. I don't get it!!!!! I am sure if a listing they have sells it bumps their reputation......but the listing agent rarely shows it. And from what I see they rarely sell it. When agents start buttering us up to list it with them I ask......if you can sell it why haven't you already done it? I guess they expect me to be as dumb as these buyers are.

      These buyers kill me. Oh I don't like the position of the outlets in the kitchen. I don't think this is my style.....then why did you come to see the house? I don't like the paint color.....then buy a gallon and change it you lazy idiot.

      I thought it was just the demographic, but it sounds like it is a universal issue. I wish I could just torch the place.

      My great grandmother told a story about her aunt. Her aunt hated her house and her husband wouldn't move or build a different house. One day when my great grand mother visited......her aunt told her to take the kids to the field and she would be there soon. She set the house on fire and they all watched it burn while they sat in the field. HA. I am no arsonist but I am sure she had a deep sense of satisfaction.

      All I know is my house goes off the market the end of this month weather is sells or not. Maybe I will trying selling it again in 2 months, myself. I wish you all luck in your selling your houses. B

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      Ryan 9 months ago

      Being late for an appointment or not showing up at all, happened many times.

      They left doors open and did not turn off lights. Sometimes we would walk back into our house not knowing if the realtor had been there or not.

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      ^^^^ THIS!!!! ^^^^^

      Just had someone pull this stunt today. I hate selling my house (2nd one also). And makes me NEVER want to buy another one. Millenials suck. They expect everything and don't want to pay for it.

      As for your husband....NEVER fix anything after you sign your house away. It is asking for liability. In effect while you are being a nice guy, this reads as an acknowledgement of wrong-doing. Just say no.

      When it's sold, it's gone, and it's their baby now.

      Glad you have had more success than me.

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      Sally Burt 18 months ago

      Hello,

      I live in England and was just Googling and found your really good page. We are almost at exchange of contracts in our sale and the buyers have been a complete and utter nightmare. We have also bought another property so are trying to tie in the completion date to fit in with everybody. We have been so amenable with everything and haven't made a fuss because that's who we are...BUT...after signing the contract on our new house just 2 days ago, and having agreed to accept a significantly lower offer from our buyers due to a few issues, I have today received an e mail citing 26 - yes, 26 different points they NOW want to raise!! Enough is enough! I called my estate agent and told her that I AM NOW ANGRY! I HAVE HAD ENOUGH! The stress this whole process has caused my husband, myself and my son is unbelievable. It has literally made us ill. We have shaved £20000 off the price to appease these people and they still ask for more! Why do we feel as we are the ones to have to bow down all the time? I am now literally sitting by the phone waiting for my estate agent to call back and to be honest, if she says that the buyers really are asking for us to bend over until our noses hit the floor, I think I will have to tell her that this stops now. Not even sure I want these people to have our house now. Why can't this process in England be more foolproof as it is in Scotland? I literally cannot take anymore and feel so down about it. It does help to know that others go through this as well, but this process for us should have been straightforward and everything which could go wrong has gone wrong. Maybe it's teaching me that I need to stand up for myself a little more! Thank you. x

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      ReedRose 21 months ago

      This article/blog is a relief to read. We are at what I believe is the end of a very long process of selling our home and feeling the pain of not being represented to our better interests- and above all chaos. The buyers are to close Saturday, we have no clue if they'll go thru with it. They put zero earnest money towards the purchase of our home and have repeatedly said when negotiating "we have no money." My head thinks "then how/why are you buying a house?!" Our realtor constantly speaks in ambiguous terms, blames others, and ultimately we are being made out to be the bad guys. Multiple times I've had to explain this transaction is only one that involves not only a great deal of money but my house. I have discovered as a seller not only do I lack rights, I also lack any say what so ever. To be honest having an opinion or a clue seems to aggravate the situation. We are now faced with a question of them actually closing and us moving on with our lives, no matter the outcome.

      I believe there are good full time agents, but beware of the part time ones and especially those who have been in the business for so long. They lack professionalism and feel attacked when asked for facts and information. They just know how to play the game to their advantage and don't honestly care who pays as long as they win. Honesty is key, I recommend finding a guide, a person to help you and educate you along the way. I am blessed with an awesome Aunt who is a realtor in another state and has coached me. I think this is why I am the bad guy. Knowledge is power. Take it!

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      moonlake 22 months ago from America

      Victoria Lynn, I feel for you selling a house and I hope it goes great for you. Knowing the realtor personally will probably work out better for you. Thanks so much for stopping by.

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      moonlake 22 months ago from America

      poetryman6969, Thanks for stopping by. I understand what you saying so much can go wrong.

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      poetryman6969 22 months ago

      We actually had a good generous buyer but everything took twice as long as we were promised. If you planned on turning everything off and moving at a date certain, it can be a pain to try to change all that at the last minute.

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      Victoria Lynn 22 months ago from Arkansas, USA

      Wow, what a lot of stress! I'm planning on selling my home in the next year and downsizing. Right now I'm going through stuff and getting rid of it. I have so much to do! Then lots of cleaning. I have let things accumulate. I live in an area where the market is good, and I know personally the person I'm going to use for my realtor, so those are positives. The worst thing is getting the house and yard ready when everything is so behind!

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      moonlake 3 years ago from America

      Auggie, No problem vent all you want. I don't know what buyers are thinking of at times. We had one house for sale and right after it went on the market the house two doors down went on the market. That house sold right away. Small, small house but with a huge fireplace. You could stand in the livingroom and see right into the master bedroom it was that small. The guy said to us after he bought it "I didn't know this house was so small, we should have bought yours." Duh, what are buyers thinking? They lived in that house only about 6 months and then sold it to a bachelor. Many buyers don't use their heads and many realtors don't help because they don't point out the good points of a house.

      It sounds like your doing all the right things. I hope you sell soon. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.

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      Auggie 3 years ago

      In the process of selling our 4th home; approx. 3800 sq ft., 2 story American trad. on .49 acres, prime lot and location in neighborhood (cul de sac, on a pond) 4 br, 2.5 bath, LR, GR with large wood burning fireplace, DR, finished basement, 3 car side load garage,etc...the first 3 sold in a month or less usually to the first person viewing. Current home is in a much different price point but boy what an ordeal, now on market for 43 days without an offer, quite a few showings. Our specific subdivision has homes priced from $350,000-$4,000,000 (yes, 4 million) We are in the low $400's, feel like home is priced to sell given the updates, upgrades and overall condition of interior and exterior. Our 20 year old home (we've been in home for 16 years) offers quality flooring: hardwoods, Italian porcelain tile, very little carpet (but new), neutral new paint throughout, lovely updated/new kitchen and baths, tile backsplashes, high end granite in kitchen and bathrooms, new interior and exterior lighting, new kitchen appliances, new high efficiency heat pump, furnace, HW heater, new water softener and filtration systems, new wrap around paver exterior hardscape, out door grilling area, large open wood burning fire place, spa, quality exterior plantings, .49 acres, all exterior doors, windows and siding are high quality, home was painted 2 years ago (pleasant color). All clutter, unnecessary furniture, personal items have been removed from sight or donated. My home is so clean you could eat off the floors...seriously. No funky colors or décor anywhere in home. We ask that the buyer's agent bring preapproved buyers...no point in showing the home to gawkers, too much work goes into a showing as many other bloggers have noted. Positive comments we've received are: lovely, well maintained, very clean, love the updates and upgrades, love the yard. Negative or less favorable comments; want 3 full baths, larger basement or "walk out" basement, 2 of the 4 bedrooms are too small, somewhat overpriced. Now, before anyone says Oh ok the home is overpriced, let me give you a couple of examples of recent home sales within 2-5 homes away. One semi updated homes, good lot and location with a very nice exterior hardscape and pool sold for $454,900 in 6 days (2 doors down from us about) approx. 4100 sq ft. Now to the opposite extreme opposite; home across the street, large but generic lot, poor maintenance and very little interior upgrades sold for $352,900, about 3800 sq. ft. A little more than a $100,000 dollar price point difference. So here's my question...WHY DO BUYERS profess to know how much my home is worth if THEY haven't done their homework on the neighborhood where they are looking????????????????? Thanks for letting me vent, I feel so much better although I absolutely abhor the process and really, really dislike realtors and buyers!!!!!!! Feedback PLEASE:)

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      moonlake 3 years ago from America

      Deborah-Diane, It was an experience. I know there are good realtors and there are bad. We happen to have bad experience with both the homes we sold. Of course, people have to make a home their own they have that right once they have bought a home. Thank you for stopping by.

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      Deborah-Diane 4 years ago from Orange County, California

      I am a former Realtor and I have also gone through the home selling process myself at least seven times. I understand how difficult it is to sell a home that you love. When Realtors show a home at the last minute, it is usually because their client asked to see it on the spur of the moment. It is as frustrating for the Realtor as for the home seller. I also know that the first thing Buyers do when they move into a home is "make it their own." This usually means changing everything they can afford to change. Even as a Realtor, I had a difficult time with the reality of selling my own homes ... and my husband really hated it. We are renting at the moment and, to be honest, there are many things I really enjoy about renting. Thanks so much for sharing your experiences.

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      moonlake 4 years ago from America

      vespawoolf , The boat house always was a little creepy with all those big spiders in it. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.

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      vespawoolf 4 years ago from Peru, South America

      What a nightmare! Thanks for the tips on what to tell realtors. I can't believe the new home owners of your second house tore out the trees because they didn't like the birds! The boat house tantrum made me laugh. : )

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      moonlake 4 years ago from America

      Peggy W, The worst part this wasn't just one realtor it was, lets see I think 4 and 2 different companies. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment and share I appreciate it.

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      moonlake 4 years ago from America

      vandynegl, Your welcome. Besides sickness or death I think selling a house is the most stressful thing there is. Thanks so much for stopping by.

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      moonlake 4 years ago from America

      Paul Kuehn, Thank you so much for stopping by. We were lucky we got our house sold on our own so fast because it had been with the realtors for a long time. Interest rates were high and houses weren't selling that well. Thanks so much for stopping and for the vote, share, tweet and pin.

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      Peggy Woods 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Sounds like you had some really bad Realtors!

      My dad was a Realtor but also a home builder and he was honest as the day is long. He would point out potential flaws in a house to buyers as well as the good points and if anything needed fixing he was able to give them estimates as to what it would cost. He put much more into his houses than other builders and therefore made less profit, but he was proud of each and every house that he built and it was built to last.

      The Realtor that we have used in Houston helped find and then sell my mother's house, my brother's house and now the last one we sold and one that we now live in. She has also become a friend.

      While keeping a place spotless and clean is no fun...it is amazing how many people do not do that. I previewed about 100 homes before my mother and brother bought their homes here in Houston and then culled from that list to about 8 or 10 of the best ones for them to view. They each bought one from that list. Some of the homes we toured were filthy and smelly. Amazing that any of them could be sold in that state.

      People have no right to be going through your private things...nor stealing. A good Realtor keeps an eye on such things and would not allow it to happen.

      Finding a good and honest Realtor is like finding a good doctor, dentist or any other individual with whom you wish to give your business. Hope you have better luck next time if you decide to sell your home. A good Realtor can help correctly price your home, give you tips as to what shows best, help navigate all of the legal paperwork, etc. Personally I would not want every "Tom, Dick and Harry" coming through my house in this day and age without having been vetted as to their ability to qualify in purchasing my home which a good Realtor also does.

      Yours was a nightmare experience for sure! In the best case scenario, it is not fun living in a home that is also up for sale. I'll agree with you there! Sharing.

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      vandynegl 4 years ago from Ohio Valley

      Thanks for sharing this! It is nice to know that we weren't the only ones going through some crap to sell AND buy a house! Our new house that we currently live in took about 3 months with a realtor. The loan process was horrendous and they kept coming up with all of these setbacks for us. Once we got in the house, we ran into so many issues that the previous owners did not do (fix the leaking roof, eliminate their awful animal smell, treat the house for fleas, clean the toilets....seriously). Now, the house we sold took closer to 6 months. We did not go through a realtor, but the other people's loan company gave everyone a real hard time. So stressful! All of it!

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      Paul Richard Kuehn 4 years ago from Udorn City, Thailand

      moonlake,

      This is a very interesting hub and certainly very useful for someone who is selling their house. First let me say that I admire you for selling your first house by yourself and doing it so fast. When I briefly worked as a real estate agent 20 years, the brokers hated FSBOs or "for sale by owner" people. My experiences selling a house while not being a real estate agent weren't too bad. In both cases I had a big company like Century 21 and Coldwell and ?Banker? affliated with Sears handle the sale and finding buyers. The first house was a "creampuff" just completely rebuilt from a fire and it sold within a week. The second house took 3-4 months because the first potential buyer couldn't come up with the bank financing at the last minute. Voted up and sharing and Pinning and Tweeting

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      moonlake 4 years ago from America

      Bridget, I know it's hard when selling a house. All the luck to you hope it all goes well. Thanks for your visit.

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      Bridget 4 years ago

      Buyers are so mean I am literally at whits end this made me feel better maybe I can relax a little now and just prepare

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      moonlake 4 years ago from America

      fedup, Good luck with your house I know how hard it can be to sell a home. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.

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      fedup 4 years ago

      So glad to have found your article. House has been on market for 5 months and a nightmare. I interviewed multiple agents, but agents change very quickly after the contract is signed. Going through the offer process right now, really low ball offer and very low counter per my agent, "we don't want to scare the buyer". You are absolutely right they seem to be working for buyer. I may never own another house. Realtors are rotten in general.

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      moonlake 4 years ago from America

      rajan jolly, I think your right. Thanks so much for stopping by my hub.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Very interesting! Who would't hate selling a house after going through so much. I guess realtors all over are the same.

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      moonlake 5 years ago from America

      tparkin68, Thank you for stopping by. One agent was a friend, big mistake. The other agent we didn"t get chance to pick. Didn't want to make a big deal out of it she went to our church.

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      tparkin68 5 years ago

      Really good story. Some things in regards to what the buyers wanted could have been avoided with a realtor that takes more charge of the situation. I interviewed 10 agents online before I committed to the best one for me. I used a service called Sundaybell. Here's an article they wrote on finding the best agent for you....

      http://www.sundaybell.com/classroom/5-questions-to...

      Tim

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      moonlake 5 years ago from America

      tillsontitan, Thank you, I agree with you. You would think with two houses that we would have gotten one good realtor out of it. The big problem is we're the one who hires the realtor but they take the side of the buyer everytime. Thanks for the up vote.

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      Mary Craig 5 years ago from New York

      I think the whole house selling/realtor situation is a sham. I know you more or less have to do it that way to protect yourself and the buyer but I totally sympathize with what you went through! Voted up.

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      moonlake 5 years ago from America

      Karen Wodke, thanks for stopping by my hub. One thing we did wrong was say that we would clear out everything around the yard. Well, this man wanted even trellis we had for flowers removed. There was an old outhouse on the property he wanted that removed we refused. The boat house had things in it he insisted it be removed and should have been left with the boathouse.

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      Karen Wodke 5 years ago from Midwest

      I love your advice at the end! It's so wise.

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      moonlake 5 years ago from America

      BkCreative that's right I was your first.

      So nice of you to come over a leave a comment. I think selling a house is right next to having surgery. That day my husband couldn't be at the closing so the man that was buying was taking advantage of a woman. He didn't realize what I had been through all those months trying to sell that place.

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      Karen Wodke 5 years ago from Midwest

      I know...it's so difficult to try and sell a place you are currently living in. It's like putting your life on hold. I prefer to buy a place, fix it up, and sell it rather than selling the one I'm living in. But sometimes we just don't have a choice.

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      BkCreative 5 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

      Such good advice - I cannot be driven crazy by this process - I do want to sell within the next year or so and I am wondering what should I do in preparation - but 'as is' sounds good.

      My poor neighbor has to pack her baby and go somewhere else each time there is a showing.

      I'm always amazed that people cannot see beyond the staging - have we become that simple? I suppose so because I hear people saying all the time 'but I don't like that color on the wall' - good grief - you are not going to paint? And how about those that say their couch won't fit? Do you really buy a house to fit a couch? Yikes!

      I like your stance and I enjoyed your hub as always!

      You were my first comment-person all those years ago (almost 3 - wow!) and yay!

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