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What I Hate About Selling a Home

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Selling a house is no walk in the park.

Selling a house is no walk in the park.

Have You Put Your House on the Market Lately?

Things I hate about selling a house: everything.

I absolutely hate it. We have put two homes on the market. I have to tell you I can't stand the buyers or the real estate agents we have had to deal with. They can both be a nightmare.

This article is about all the stress we went through trying to sell homes. Homes we loved and thought other people should love. They don't love your home; only you do. You love the gardens you worked so hard on; they don't. You think you're decorating is great, but they hate it.

Someone told us we had to bury St. Joseph upside down in the garden. He was supposed to help sell the house. I think he actually worked on the first house. It sold soon after we put him in the ground.

House Sale Number 1

I hate keeping the house spotlessly clean. My house is clean, but when selling a home, you do need to keep it spotless. Everything should be clean, smell good, and freshened up. Counter tops are cleared, and items are put away. You know the deep corner cleaning. Kitchen drawers should be very clean because they will be looking in them. Stove and refrigerator cleaned if you’re leaving them behind.

There are buyers who don’t like your decorating, and for some odd reason, they think they’re buying the decor too. I didn’t decorate for them, and I removed everything I thought would be too personal. My decorating is not staying with the house.

Trying to find the items I had put away later on wasn’t easy. I would stuff things everywhere I could so they could not see them, like hiding under beds and placing them in baskets.

There are realtors who call at the last minute to show our house or just pop in. I had to stop them. I just got to the point where I wouldn’t allow it.

I hate my realtor acting like I’m the bad guy.

I hate the real-estate company changing my realtor without letting us know and not giving us a chance to pick who we wanted. Not only did I not like the realtor they gave us. I knew her, and she was selling her house, which was pretty close to the same as ours. Whose house do you think she will show?

We had items disappearing from our home and did not know about it until later. We had a camera disappear at one house. Take your valuables with you when you leave the house. We later heard our realtor had taken money from places.

Our realtor didn’t show our house in a year until it was time to renew, and suddenly we had someone looking at the house; now you know it’s just another realtor.

We finally sold the house ourselves within two months without any markdown in price. We got so sick of realtors with this house we finally just put it in the paper ourselves. It took about two months. The realtor had it on the market for two years.

I don't like decor.

I don't like decor.

House Sale Number 2

It’s so hard gathering up all the pets, putting them in the car, and leaving the house for God only knows how long.

Realtors are bringing her kids and letting them run through our house and hang out by the lake while she’s showing the house. I’m sure the customers were not thrilled with having kids running around while they were trying to talk with the realtor. We sure weren’t, and we let the real estate company know.

I was lucky my neighbor said to bring the pets and your car over here and stay until we see them leave. We could sit at her kitchen table and look right over at our house without anyone seeing us. That’s how I found out about the realtor’s kids being there. If the realtor’s kids had fallen in the lake or pond, she would have sued us. Make it clear you don’t want the realtor to bring her kids.

The realtors were not pointing out what was good about the house. Make your own list of things you want to be shown in your house. Leave it on the counter with a dish of cookies.

Realtors were not telling us what the people liked or disliked about the house, giving us no feedback at all.

They let kids go into our private items that had nothing to do with the house because they were so afraid of the customer and wouldn't speak up for us. This happens often, and there is no excuse for it. If it’s a dresser, it’s not staying with the house. They have no business going into your private items.

Being late for an appointment or not showing up at all happened many times.

They left doors open and did not turn off the lights. Sometimes we would walk back into our house, not knowing if the realtor had been there or not. Make it clear to the realtor to leave a note or one of her cards letting you know they had been in your house.

I was in the real estate office to sign final papers, and the buyer jumped all over me about something he was sure we had done at the house. I was by myself; my husband couldn’t be there. Never go alone; take someone with you, or make sure your husband is there. You need him to protect you. This man was crazy and mean.

My realtor took up for him to the point where I finally stood up and said, “Fine; then, I guess you haven’t bought a house.” His wife was going to go crazy over this because I knew she wanted the house. I won’t tell you how I knew she wanted it so bad. Both realtors were upset because it meant no money in their pockets. They changed their attitudes very fast.

I see this bully around town every once in a while, and I still do not speak to him. People on the lake don’t like him. He thinks they can’t fish in their boats in front of the house. There are very few people I dislike completely, but this man I can’t stand.

The old days

The old days

House Sold

We sold our second house through the realtor, but by the time the buyer tried to pay $10,000.00 less, we were so mad at everything that happened. We said, “No, take it or leave it at this price.” They took it even though they tried to con us into more stuff later.

We learned one lesson—sell your house as is and promise nothing, nothing at all. If you say you will remove all items from the property, they will come up with things not connected to the house and that you never expected to have to move.

This buyer told our realtor we had thrown all our stuff into the lake, concrete blocks, etc., and he wanted us to remove it because we had promised to remove all things around the house. We didn’t throw the blocks in the lake. They had been put there the year the boathouse was built by whoever built the boathouse in the 1930s.

Our realtor took his side. We were not going to remove something we hadn’t put there and have the DNR come down on our heads and fine us for disturbing the lake. Many years before, when we bought the property, we had tried to clear the block out of the lake, but the DNR wouldn’t let us.

Not selling

Not selling

Boat House

The day I left the realtor's office, and after the papers were signed, I was so mad and upset I went to the house to start to remove things I knew needed to be removed. I went into our boathouse and started throwing things out the door (a little temper here).

Now, let me tell you, our boathouse was always full of dock spiders. I didn't like them, and when I would see one, I would be out of the boathouse, but this day if those spiders had got in my way, I would have grabbed them by their legs, and they would have gone flying out of the boathouse just like the rest of the stuff.

We had another day to get things out of the house.

Second House on YouTube

I see our old house on YouTube now. They're trying to sell it again. My husband loved this house because he built it from scratch. Hated to sell it, but when retirement was looming, we knew we could not afford the taxes on a lake.

Remember, you are hiring the real estate company; you are the one paying them from the money you get from your home. You are the boss, not the buyers. If you don't like the real estate company, get rid of them. We had problems with all the companies we went with. Each one pulled their own little tricks.

We really were too nice and never complained when we should have with the first house. With the second house, we did let them know when we were not happy. I'm sure they didn't like us, but we didn't care.

This is not my décor in this YouTube video.

What You Should Tell Your Realtor

  1. Don't bring extra people or kids to a showing.
  2. Take off your shoes.
  3. Leave your card or a note before leaving the house.
  4. Turn off lights and lock doors.
  5. Don't let kids or grown-ups into my private things.
  6. Don't call at the last minute.
  7. Give me feedback, good or bad; if you don't, you're done.
  8. Stop asking me a hundred times to drop the price.

The Final Sale

Be ready to be upset over things that happen with your house. People move in, and they don't like what you like. The first house we sold was the house our children grew up in. We had worked on the yard for 24 years. It was beautiful. We had a white lilac bush outside the window. When the bush would bloom, the wonderful smell of it would come in the window.

We also had a mountain ash tree on the sidewalk by the drive. It always had birds in it, a beautiful tree, and it's not an easy tree to grow in this area. They cut both the bush and the tree down almost as soon as they moved in. My husband talked to the man who bought the house and asked him why he had cut the tree. We were just curious why he would get rid of a tree. His words, "I didn't like all the birds."

We had a large cement porch with planters on one side of the house. They tore it out and put in a wood deck when there was already a covered screened-in patio. To each his own!

Our second house was on the property my parents had once owned. It had a cottage on it. We took down the cottage and built the house. My Dad had been so excited about us building this house. He wanted us to fix a bedroom on the lower floor for him and mother. We did that, one with a big window he could look out at the lake as soon as he got up in the morning. He died the year we built the house.

There was not much about the house the buyers liked. I have no idea why they bought it. They tore up my front garden and took it out completely. They removed a pond in the yard. We had a pond that was established and took very little care. They hated it. We loved the pond, and our grandkids loved it. This buyer wanted us to remove things like the trellises I had up for our flowers.

Tell me your house selling or buying experience.

I know there are always problems with buying a house too. If you ask the people who bought our second house, they would very likely blame us.

Anything that went wrong with the second house, the owners would call my husband to come and fix it. I finally told him that was enough; they could take care of their own problems. It was never anything we had done wrong with the house; it was always something they just couldn't fix or didn't know how to fix.

A Funny Thing Happened

My brother-in-law was selling his place, and the people who bought it were the same people who bought our second house. I warned him about them. While he was out of state, they called him because their water froze, and they wanted him to fix it. He's out of state; how was he going to fix it?

They left the place without heat while they went to Arizona, which is a very big reason why the pipes froze. They are two grown people who don't know how to handle their own problems, or they try to get things done for free.


I'm complaining about realtors, and now my daughter just got her license. My granddaughter is also a realtor.

I recently bought my last home. This time, everything went pretty well.

This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.

© 2011 moonlake


Katherine on June 28, 2020:

I don't understand all the complaining. A buyer is someone who is about to invest a massive amount of money. Of course they're going to go through everything with a fine tooth comb and not just take whatever is available. Sellers like to pretend they're perfect, but they become just like buyers at another point when looking for their own property. As a seller, you need to be more than accommodating to a buyer who's about to take your property off your hands for you. They're doing you a favor, not vice versa.

FrustratedSeller on March 13, 2019:

This subject makes my blood boil. My heart goes out to all the sellers who deal with crazy buyers, picky inspectors and poor quality agents.

Our house has been on a market for 7 months now. We had lowball offer, my husband was devastated. We counter-offered with the listing prices which made them disappear.

Then we had a CRAZY BUYER showing up. They first wanted to see the house at 8 am. We said no way! I could not leave my house that early because I was getting ready for work and my son for school. So they re-scheduled that day at 8 pm (rolling my eyes again). We said 'OK'. They stayed longer than 1 hour. It was past 9 pm, mid of January, cold, dark, frosty and we could not get into the house because the buyer was still there. We kept circling around and around, with grocery food in our trunk, my son being trier and me feeling mad.

They finally left. Two days later they scheduled another showing. This time at 7 pm. Three (!) cars pulled in and more than 5 people came in. They spent there close to 2 hours. We were circling around again wondering why it takes them 2 hours to see the house. WHY???

After that showing pillows were knocked over, doors were open, things moved, toilets used but not flushed. It is like they had a party in my house for 2 hours.

Later on they wanted us to send them copies of our electric bill, water bill and other bills. My husband went out of his way to find, obtain, scan, and forward the info to our agent. Took him sometime to go trough this exercise. It should be noted that he is on disability and I work full time. I had very limited time for all those things.

They also wanted us to send a copy of contract of what was done in our basement (we put a great water drainage system with life-time warranty). So we had to prepare that report for them too.

Then my agent called saying that they want to make an offer. They offered 20K lower than listing price and below all recent comps. The whole negotiation and signing process took almost 3 hours. We wanted to take a break and continue next day but they wanted to sign everything 'today'.

So it was close to 11 pm when we signed and agreed on everything. I was exhausted.

Then inspection came in. These soul sucking buyers wanted us to fix EVERYTHING on the list. 42 pages of fluff and they wanted it all to be done IN 3 DAYS. We agreed to some stuff and gave them credit for the rest. They wanted more money. Ok, look, I know my house. It is in a very great condition. Everything is working and it is a move -in ready property. they asked 10,000 in credits for 'repairs' and my agent said it was overkill. We gave them only $5,000 and to this day I do not even know what was that money for.

Next day my agent called again and said that the buyer is backing out.

Honestly, after all the stress they put us through, insomnia, aggravation, etc I was happy to get rid of these souls sucking, money sucking and blood sucking crazy buyers.

Now I am dreading my next offer. The house has been on a market for 9 months, priced in the range of the lowest comps possible. We are selling at a loss but I think people would still low-ball us. This is terrible. God help us to go through this.

Nkd on December 22, 2018:

So true! First three buyer wasted time. Always a great offer. Had bigger lot then most houses with no back yard. All the flooring is tile and laminate but very high quality. People loved the house so the final buyer was great. Loved loved loved the house. Then came the appraisal. Appraisal first appraised my house almost 25k below offer price. I was stunned 0 dollars for upgrade and 0 dollars for back yard. Now here is the kicker I am in California so the appraiser appraised my house similar to houses sold in my community 6-9 months ago. Another pending house at close to my agreed upon price on the same street. But lender and appraiser igonre that. No can’t take current market value lol! Told buyer I’ll meet them half way since they loved the house and I am actually not even in a hurry to sell it since I am exhausted from last 3 months and people wasting time. My agent always tells me to compromise. Buyer would have had to only bring another 7k or so to close and I am sure it’s stressful for them too. Heck I would do that if I was the buyer because the price you buy at is the new value for your house and you just raised the bar in your neighrbood and appraisers can’t shit on other sales lol. I am like if you don’t want to meet me half way for the house you love and would rather have a house with no backyard and carpet you hate and flat paint. All power to you. My agent is fired though. Guy is scaring me, market is crashing and appraisers are predicting the future price, lol. I am like so you are telling me appraisers are pricing my house and predicting the future? Everywhere I read they say in a hot market appraisers tend to be little behind in appraised value lol. Hate the scare tactics.

Rebecca on October 03, 2018:

It has been an absolute nightmare. People keep changing their minds; it feels like it's never going to end :(

JAM on October 02, 2018:

Sold our first home to the second showing at full asking, we had renovated the entire house and it was on a rare (for the neighborhood) double lot. New buyers noticed the water line to the fridge was leaking one morning but left it and went to work all day - well it ruined the entire finished basement. That house is a pit and the neighborhood went to crap.

Last house we just sold a month ago, I have never heard of such a nightmare as these buyers and their agent have been. They submitted 4 offers before we finally responded. Their first offer was $20k below asking with another $15k in concessions on a house listed for 2 days at $197k. Second offer was marginally better with a note from the realtor to "please counter" why not just make a good offer in the first place? Wanted us to fix every little thing on the inspection report which we are not used to I guess we are old school it seems to be the new trend, seems in bad taste to me. By the time we got to the closing table I had enough of their agent who berated us about things several times, let the buyers stay an hour past time of their final walkthrough and nearly had us cancelling the sale three times. Wife made a comment at closing that she was disappointed to come in and see our things packed (I guess she was confused about buying the house not our personal items). Thought we were done with these folks when we get a message through our realtor yesterday. Flash flooding in the area and they got water in the basement and now their agent says "tell me what the sellers plan to do about it or they are going to a lawyer". I wish these people would just go away. I've never heard of sellers going through this much with buyers, wish I had listened to my gut when they submitted that first offer and just said NO.

Two buck chuck on May 28, 2018:

Selling a home is stressful, as is buying one. I have bought and sold 5 houses and am now buying what I hope will be my last so I have plenty of experience. you have your gripes but the ruling principle of real estate sales is, caveat emptor, let the buyer beware. There is so much more potential for harm to the buyer than to the seller as most buyers do attempt to downplay defects at best, at worst they are actively hiding issues, which happens every day. I have had buyers do horrible things to properties that I bought and in reverse i have never deceived or harmed a buyer. And I have always offered full or near full purchase price and therefore didn't expect sellers to leave mountains of junk, hide termite damage with fake repairs so the inspector could not detect it, take items like water softeners that were attached to the house, etc.

I don't understand why you have a problem with someone asking you to drop your price especially after months or a year on the market. If your house hasn't sold, that's because it is not at market price. Your home may have a certain value in your own mind, but if it doesn't sell at your price point that is because your set value is not accurate.

This was a real eye opener for me so thanks for this post. Everyone is not a good person.

moonlake (author) from America on February 14, 2018:

Julie, For crying out loud, afraid of snakes in Minnesota. I live in Wisconsin our snakes are not poison. I know realtors don’t give feed back. I feel for you I know how hard it can be to sell a house. Hope it happens soon for you and thanks so much for stopping by.

Julie on February 14, 2018:

I can totally relate. We have been trying to sell our 10 acre hobby farm since June 2017 here in Minnesota. We have had dozens of showings, and even had a buyer. But during the inspection, they realized that country life wasn't for them, and they backed out because the inspector mentioned evidence of an occasional mouse in the attic. OMG!

Open houses are a complete waste of time when selling a hobby farm. All you get are "dreamers" who wish they could buy your place, but obviously can't afford it. Then there's the folks who are "just looking" but not ready to buy! OMG!

Doesn't anyone realize how much work it is for the seller to spend hours cleaning, then have to pack up the dog and find someplace to go in the dead of winter?

Our realtor along with all of our friends and family thought we would sell in 1 week or less. But now it's been 8+ months and even though we actually have 3 "prospects," none of them have made an offer because they either don't qualify, are stuck in a lease until June, or are afraid the property might have snakes. Yes, that is actually what they said. For heaven's 10 acres of woods, wetland and pasture!

And feedback. Would it kill these realtors to give us feedback? The majority of these realtors are new to the business and don't have a clue.

PoohBear on December 11, 2017:

I notice the realtors do nothing. they place a sign in your yard, MLS on Zillow and wait. I am not sure they they get 6%. it kills me that a third of what we net will go to the realtors that truly do nothing. people call their agent and say, "I saw this house, can we go see it"

I think the rate should be reduced, especially the longer the house is on the market.

RME on July 22, 2017:


We have bought and sold many houses b/c I move frequently for work. The real issue is the real estate industry is a rigged cartel.

I bought my first home and the seller disguised a water leak under the slab in the home by reducing water pressure. They actually buried a pair of vice grip pliers on the shut off valve reducing water pressure to a trickle. Cost me $500 to pay a leak sniffer to find the leak and another $2500 to jack hammer up the slab and fix the leak. We discovered by happenstance that the listing agent actually arranged for the fix. Our realtor did not know what to do but it took me five minutes reading the LLR site in SC to realize that we were injured. After a year of threatening letters from my closing attorney they seller and listing agent's broker made good on the cost we incurred. MAKE SURE you pay close attention to the seller's disclosures and the results of your inspections and the responses by the sellers and their broker; it may end up protecting your interests.

We then sold that same home 5 years later in a fabulous transaction and that person still lives there. It was a hot market so it sold in 24 hours for $5k over asking and all parties were happy. The realtors really did nothing other than put the homes in the MLS and collect 6% for very little time or effort.

We then purchased two homes over the next five years with no issues. Again, it was a hot market and we were buying houses that were relatively new. Both of these transactions were no drama and excellent. We bought one that was on the market for 10 days and one that was on the market for 6 months. Both were excellent sellers and great transactions. Neither required much work from the realtors on either side. We looked at 5-7 homes each time and were rational in our offers. In both cases the listing agent had little to do. We know b/c both of these were listed by agents we knew.

We then bought a nightmare in Charlotte. The buyers were in financial trouble we learned later. The selling agent was nowhere to be found. Our buy side agent was not interested in helping much b/c she was sharing some of her commission with our corporate relocation company. We did have to look at many more homes b/c we were unfamiliar with Charlotte and it was during the beginning of the housing crisis so many homes were available and not always in great shape. We ended up getting a "deal" but it was a nightmare b/c the sellers were disorganized, the realtors were disorganized, and we were busy moving so we were not as engaged as we were in past transactions trusting realtors, inspectors, attorneys etc. Big mistake. We later discovered many things our inspectors missed and ended up spending about $35k making it right and safe. (basement issues with radon, faux stucco issues, mold issues, etc.) Disclosure laws allow sellers to get away with not disclosing much and you better make sure you hire a very tough inspector NOT associated with realtors who just want deals to close. In the end we sold that house at a bit of a loss but that was expected given the circumstances. When we sold it we disclosed the things that we had fixed and had been previous issues as well as what we thought were possible future issues and had an ok transaction with folks that appreciated our honesty. Those people still own the house and have invested a lot of money updating it and I think appreciate our efforts to be helpful and informative. The realtor in that sale for us was a top 5 performer in Charlotte and was useless. We met them once and then dealt with their staff. Their entire marketing plan is how to manage the "seller" into the proper price and property condition. They did have a boiler plate marketing plan but most of their energy was spent managing me and trying to influence me into pricing changes, useless open houses, and ridiculously poor follow up.

We then moved to Connecticut and bought and sold there. One thing about CT and NY is that agents there DO CALL YOU BACK and quickly. And, they tend to be very serious about being on time and constantly updating you on timing etc. confirming every appointment, call, or meeting multiple times. But, they are also very impatient and think most buyers and sellers are stupid and only they (the realtor) understand the economics of a real estate transaction and the process by which real estate changes hands in this country. They were used to getting their way and had a real hard time dealing with me b/c I would analyze my own comps and do my own study on pricing. We ended up having to go through several realtors before we found one that would agree with us on our purchase strategy which ended up working as we got $50k off and only looked at 3 homes and found our dream house on 5 acres. When we sold 3 years later we had the same issue with multiple realtors under valuing our house and finally we did a FSBO with broker protection and sold the house in 48 hours for 99.8% of our asking price with no contingencies with a 45 day close. It was unbelievable how arrogant and greedy these brokers were in CT and NY. They really thought we were rubes and it ended up that we were the only ones that understood the value of our property despite tons of objective MLS data, comps, etc.

Finally, we are back to SC with one of our original homes from 2004 back on the market and while it is hot in most places now it is not hot in our particular part of town and at our $500kish price point. So, our house sits. This is the longest (5 months) we have ever had a house on the market and now we really know how unprofessional most buy side agents are. We have had 24 showings in 5 months and only 8 have left feedback. Of those 8 only 3 were complete (answered all 5 simple questions). We are on a 24 hour notice by appt only and we still have folks playing games with times / dates / etc. Very much a lack of respect for the owner. When you are buyer you are a guest in someone's home and should act like it. If you are looking at 7 houses in one day you are a busy fool not properly determining what you want and are just waiting the realtor's time and the seller's time. Think about what you want and read the listing before you go. Don't complain about there not being a 5th bedroom when the house is listed as a 4 bedroom and don't complain about cutting too much grass when the listing says the house sits on a acre with a large beautiful lawn.

My suggestions to those folks engaged and awake. Realtors are just parasites in between the buyer and seller earning 6% for nothing in most cases. I know there are a few good realtors that think they are working hard driving people around and setting expectations but no other country in the industrialized world pays 6%; most pay 1% to 2% or a flat fee versus our stupid system that enriches dumb realtors and brokers.

Be awake, take care of your own business, use realtors on the buy side to get you in the homes you want, use your own contract and attorney not their agreement, set your own terms and ignore stupid realtors / broker's advice, and own it your self. By sub contracting thinking and common sense to realtors / brokers (who have almost no barrier to entry in their industry) you are setting yourself up to not be successful with your investments. Be awake and aware of what is happening around you. Fire dumb realtors quickly and hire new ones slowly.

Good luck!

moonlake (author) from America on July 13, 2017:

TGal, I really do feel bad for you. What are people thinking wanting you to remove insulation and install it again.

Bringing 6 people to your home and thinking they can just walk right in and send you out. I would keep the deposit too. Your realtor should have stepped in and told them they couldn't do that.

A friend recently had an inspection done on her house by a contractor who was a friend of the buyers. By the time he was finished with the inspection he wanted her to redo things that would have cost her well over $50,000.00. The house was selling for $140,000.00. She said forget it and she would not accept any other offers from them.

People are crazy when it comes to buying a house. They want a house for free.

Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving a comment. Good luck with selling your home.

TGal on July 12, 2017:

We are in the process of selling our home and it just keeps getting worse. We had several offers within days of listing but one was ridiculously lower than asking, one was higher but they wanted us to remove and replace the insulation first and the last one was at asking but with just a few subjects. We took the last one as I didn't feel that the insulation needed to be replaced. My husband had only installed it 7 years earlier and I felt that if it was good enough for us to live with comfortably then it should be good enough for them or they could change it themselves. I was trying to get ready to move and did not want to put up with that mess and hassle. The offer we did accept had a condition of an approved house inspection. They told me the house inspector would be there at 4pm on a Friday afternoon. I rushed home from work to meet the inspector and was shocked to see the home owners there. I was even more shocked when two more vehicles drove up and a group of six people where approaching the house and not one an actual house inspector. I asked them what was going on as I was only expecting one house inspector not a group of six. They told me they were all there to inspect the house and would need two hours in the house. I was absolutely shocked that they would think that they could just come over with a bunch of their friends and poke through my house for two hours. I said no I wasn't prepared or comfortable with it for liability reasons and that I would be willing to re-schedule for a time when an actual house inspector could come. They left and a few hours later withdrew their offer. It has now been sometime since that happened and viewings have dropped off and we have had no other offers. I was angry when my realtor told me that it would be bad karma to keep their deposit even though I felt they broke the contract for no excusable reason. I offered to give access to a house inspector not throw a Friday social for them to check out the vibe of my house.

I am sick and tired of trying to keep it looking like a show home at every moment and feel I can't really live at all. Most of our stuff had to be moved to storage to make it show worthy and I am just floating around in this fake life, spending my time tending to my beloved gardens of which I will most likely not get to harvest.

Once it sells I then have to look forward to being on the opposite end of the scale and buy a home which I find to be an equal emotional roller-coaster.

I can hardly wait until this nightmare is over.

moonlake (author) from America on June 08, 2017:

BelindaJewell, I understand just how you feel. With my granddaughter and daughter both being realtors I see some of their side. I do know that they even have problems with other realtors.

I hope you get your house sold soon and have no more problems.

BelindaJewell on June 05, 2017:

Wow, thank you so much for this! I felt like I had written this. We are having the exact same problems. I have learned to HATE realtors. They are horrible. I told my husband this a.m. I felt like, as sellers, we are being abused. We've had our alarmed tripped, which caused a false alarm, and the City of Houston only allows you 3 false alarms a year until you get a $250 fine. They don't care. We've had unqualified people - who couldn't get $100 credit on their best day, looking for a house. We've had realtors show up without clients - we know this because we have a camera AND my husband has to go home and let the dogs out to show the house. Then the realtor gives feedback to our realtor saying what the clients didn't like - when he actually had no clients. We've had them make appointments for 2:30 and at 3:06 call to cancel. We've had them show up early, before my husband could get home and let the dogs out. Honestly, I don't even want to sell anymore. My husband says it hasn't even been a month and to hang on longer, but my patience is gone.

moonlake (author) from America on April 21, 2017:

R. Brown

I'm not sure who your giving all the advice to.We live in a small town so we knew exactly who our realtors were and how they were doing selling homes. Our problems weren't with our realtor but with realtors that showed our homes.

I'm not sure what you mean about the decorating.

Thanks for stopping by.

R. Brown on April 19, 2017:

Chances are if you have a problem with everyone and everything, including taking offense or even taking the time to comment on how the future buyer decorates, you are probably looking at the problem when you look in the mirror. Take a step back and think of every job you have done in life, and realize that you were far from perfect at many of those jobs, no matter how passionate and committed and skilled you may have been at the time. But, as a person, you probably made mistakes along the way somewhere, allowed yourself to get too busy when you needed a break, ran behind to an appointment, overlooked a minor detail. And I'd venture to say, like everyone else in the world, you've probably made mistakes often or have quirks about the way you do certain things. Guess what? The person you hired to sell your house is a person also, and they work in a people driven business that is centered around the customers' most personal asset with emotions often running high or low. And, if you hired an agent with a track record of being successful, you hired someone who often works in that environment 7 days a week, and not just an hour or two a day. No. No. They work 12, 14, 18 hours a day, 7 days a week, and probably 51 weeks out of the year. Fortunately the customers that aren't like you are what inspire them to keep going back everyday.

Next comes accountability. You were in charge of hiring the agent you listed with. In most cities and towns across the US, and world for that matter, there are no shortage of real estate agents. There is, however, a shortage of good ones. It's your house, you want to sell it, you are in charge of hiring an agent and asking the right questions. If you hired a bad one, the only person to blame is the same one in that mirror who has no room for human error or differences in design and personality from one person to the next. And, it's so simple to ask the right questions. You can google it if you need to but common sense should guide you through that interview with questions like: "How many homes did you sell last year?" or "What percentage of your sales are listings v. buyers?" or "What is your average sale price and how does that compare to my neighborhood?" or "When you aren't available to show my house, do you have a team member or associate that can help you?" or "What is your average list to sale price ratio and average days on the market currently?" or "What do you like best about my house?" and "How would you improve it?" or "Tell me about your marketing package and do you have samples?" or "How long have you been selling real estate as a full time agent?" and "How long have you been with your brokerage and have you worked for others?" and "Tell me about the market right now in my neighborhood." And, drum roll....... in case they don't ask: "My main reason for selling my home is ______, and when it sells, I will be moving to _______. I have _____ # of months to be there. I value honesty and therefore I am being upfront with you and want to know if you feel like that is a reasonable goal that I have."

Guess what you will have just done? 1) Identified if they are a full time, busy agent with other business. If so, they probably sell at least 20 homes per year. 2) You'll know if the homes they sell are similar to yours, your price range and if they are knowledgeable about the current market. If you aren't selling a luxury home, you don't need a luxury agent. 3) You'll know if they are honest and you'll let them know that you are by being upfront about your reason for selling. Nobody likes a guessing game and most agents aren't mind readers. If the agent can't tell you something they'd change or improve about your house, that is a tell tale sign that they aren't being upfront. Of course your house isn't perfect, especially to someone who has seen hundreds of homes in a matter of months. 4) Good agents know their numbers. They know how long their listings take to sell and they should be negotiating deals at a higher than average list/sale ratio on their listings. If they are quick and accurate with those numbers, you are probably talking to someone who is a quick thinker and seasoned professional. 5) When experience matters, hire an agent who has been working as a full time agent for at least 5 years. It never hurts to check references either. 6) There are sleazy agents, just like there are doctors, lawyers, small business owners and corporate execs. If you find yourself easily smooth talked into deals, don't meet with them alone. Make sure your spouse is there or have a friend or neighbor sit in if you live on your own.

Most people will agree that the lack of standards or requirements to obtain a real estate license give it a bad name. But remember that while there may be sleazebag agents and inexperienced part timers, there are also dedicated professionals who know what they are doing and will guard your hard earned equity, represent you with integrity and make your goal their priority. Now, if you treat every agent poorly because you think you can do a better job at everything from cleaning house to heart surgery, and interior design to politics or selling real estate to managing the local grocery store, you may find the same experiences repeating themselves no matter who you hire to do any job.

Brenda on December 18, 2016:

I am TRYING to get my house sold. I hate it. My husband is in California already and I am stuck here till the house sells. In this God forsaken town there are over 5,000 houses on the market. I will never own a house again, never! For the simple reason I don't ever want to go thru this selling process again.

We have had only one offer. And they decided to go with a new build.

And when the contract with the first agent expired agents were dying to get us to sign with them. I don't get it!!!!! I am sure if a listing they have sells it bumps their reputation......but the listing agent rarely shows it. And from what I see they rarely sell it. When agents start buttering us up to list it with them I ask......if you can sell it why haven't you already done it? I guess they expect me to be as dumb as these buyers are.

These buyers kill me. Oh I don't like the position of the outlets in the kitchen. I don't think this is my style.....then why did you come to see the house? I don't like the paint color.....then buy a gallon and change it you lazy idiot.

I thought it was just the demographic, but it sounds like it is a universal issue. I wish I could just torch the place.

My great grandmother told a story about her aunt. Her aunt hated her house and her husband wouldn't move or build a different house. One day when my great grand mother visited......her aunt told her to take the kids to the field and she would be there soon. She set the house on fire and they all watched it burn while they sat in the field. HA. I am no arsonist but I am sure she had a deep sense of satisfaction.

All I know is my house goes off the market the end of this month weather is sells or not. Maybe I will trying selling it again in 2 months, myself. I wish you all luck in your selling your houses. B

Ryan on August 16, 2016:

Being late for an appointment or not showing up at all, happened many times.

They left doors open and did not turn off lights. Sometimes we would walk back into our house not knowing if the realtor had been there or not.


^^^^ THIS!!!! ^^^^^

Just had someone pull this stunt today. I hate selling my house (2nd one also). And makes me NEVER want to buy another one. Millenials suck. They expect everything and don't want to pay for it.

As for your husband....NEVER fix anything after you sign your house away. It is asking for liability. In effect while you are being a nice guy, this reads as an acknowledgement of wrong-doing. Just say no.

When it's sold, it's gone, and it's their baby now.

Glad you have had more success than me.

Sally Burt on November 26, 2015:


I live in England and was just Googling and found your really good page. We are almost at exchange of contracts in our sale and the buyers have been a complete and utter nightmare. We have also bought another property so are trying to tie in the completion date to fit in with everybody. We have been so amenable with everything and haven't made a fuss because that's who we are...BUT...after signing the contract on our new house just 2 days ago, and having agreed to accept a significantly lower offer from our buyers due to a few issues, I have today received an e mail citing 26 - yes, 26 different points they NOW want to raise!! Enough is enough! I called my estate agent and told her that I AM NOW ANGRY! I HAVE HAD ENOUGH! The stress this whole process has caused my husband, myself and my son is unbelievable. It has literally made us ill. We have shaved £20000 off the price to appease these people and they still ask for more! Why do we feel as we are the ones to have to bow down all the time? I am now literally sitting by the phone waiting for my estate agent to call back and to be honest, if she says that the buyers really are asking for us to bend over until our noses hit the floor, I think I will have to tell her that this stops now. Not even sure I want these people to have our house now. Why can't this process in England be more foolproof as it is in Scotland? I literally cannot take anymore and feel so down about it. It does help to know that others go through this as well, but this process for us should have been straightforward and everything which could go wrong has gone wrong. Maybe it's teaching me that I need to stand up for myself a little more! Thank you. x

ReedRose on August 11, 2015:

This article/blog is a relief to read. We are at what I believe is the end of a very long process of selling our home and feeling the pain of not being represented to our better interests- and above all chaos. The buyers are to close Saturday, we have no clue if they'll go thru with it. They put zero earnest money towards the purchase of our home and have repeatedly said when negotiating "we have no money." My head thinks "then how/why are you buying a house?!" Our realtor constantly speaks in ambiguous terms, blames others, and ultimately we are being made out to be the bad guys. Multiple times I've had to explain this transaction is only one that involves not only a great deal of money but my house. I have discovered as a seller not only do I lack rights, I also lack any say what so ever. To be honest having an opinion or a clue seems to aggravate the situation. We are now faced with a question of them actually closing and us moving on with our lives, no matter the outcome.

I believe there are good full time agents, but beware of the part time ones and especially those who have been in the business for so long. They lack professionalism and feel attacked when asked for facts and information. They just know how to play the game to their advantage and don't honestly care who pays as long as they win. Honesty is key, I recommend finding a guide, a person to help you and educate you along the way. I am blessed with an awesome Aunt who is a realtor in another state and has coached me. I think this is why I am the bad guy. Knowledge is power. Take it!

moonlake (author) from America on July 27, 2015:

Victoria Lynn, I feel for you selling a house and I hope it goes great for you. Knowing the realtor personally will probably work out better for you. Thanks so much for stopping by.

moonlake (author) from America on July 27, 2015:

poetryman6969, Thanks for stopping by. I understand what you saying so much can go wrong.

poetryman6969 on July 25, 2015:

We actually had a good generous buyer but everything took twice as long as we were promised. If you planned on turning everything off and moving at a date certain, it can be a pain to try to change all that at the last minute.

Victoria Lynn from Arkansas, USA on July 25, 2015:

Wow, what a lot of stress! I'm planning on selling my home in the next year and downsizing. Right now I'm going through stuff and getting rid of it. I have so much to do! Then lots of cleaning. I have let things accumulate. I live in an area where the market is good, and I know personally the person I'm going to use for my realtor, so those are positives. The worst thing is getting the house and yard ready when everything is so behind!

moonlake (author) from America on September 23, 2013:

Auggie, No problem vent all you want. I don't know what buyers are thinking of at times. We had one house for sale and right after it went on the market the house two doors down went on the market. That house sold right away. Small, small house but with a huge fireplace. You could stand in the livingroom and see right into the master bedroom it was that small. The guy said to us after he bought it "I didn't know this house was so small, we should have bought yours." Duh, what are buyers thinking? They lived in that house only about 6 months and then sold it to a bachelor. Many buyers don't use their heads and many realtors don't help because they don't point out the good points of a house.

It sounds like your doing all the right things. I hope you sell soon. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.

Auggie on September 23, 2013:

In the process of selling our 4th home; approx. 3800 sq ft., 2 story American trad. on .49 acres, prime lot and location in neighborhood (cul de sac, on a pond) 4 br, 2.5 bath, LR, GR with large wood burning fireplace, DR, finished basement, 3 car side load garage,etc...the first 3 sold in a month or less usually to the first person viewing. Current home is in a much different price point but boy what an ordeal, now on market for 43 days without an offer, quite a few showings. Our specific subdivision has homes priced from $350,000-$4,000,000 (yes, 4 million) We are in the low $400's, feel like home is priced to sell given the updates, upgrades and overall condition of interior and exterior. Our 20 year old home (we've been in home for 16 years) offers quality flooring: hardwoods, Italian porcelain tile, very little carpet (but new), neutral new paint throughout, lovely updated/new kitchen and baths, tile backsplashes, high end granite in kitchen and bathrooms, new interior and exterior lighting, new kitchen appliances, new high efficiency heat pump, furnace, HW heater, new water softener and filtration systems, new wrap around paver exterior hardscape, out door grilling area, large open wood burning fire place, spa, quality exterior plantings, .49 acres, all exterior doors, windows and siding are high quality, home was painted 2 years ago (pleasant color). All clutter, unnecessary furniture, personal items have been removed from sight or donated. My home is so clean you could eat off the floors...seriously. No funky colors or décor anywhere in home. We ask that the buyer's agent bring preapproved point in showing the home to gawkers, too much work goes into a showing as many other bloggers have noted. Positive comments we've received are: lovely, well maintained, very clean, love the updates and upgrades, love the yard. Negative or less favorable comments; want 3 full baths, larger basement or "walk out" basement, 2 of the 4 bedrooms are too small, somewhat overpriced. Now, before anyone says Oh ok the home is overpriced, let me give you a couple of examples of recent home sales within 2-5 homes away. One semi updated homes, good lot and location with a very nice exterior hardscape and pool sold for $454,900 in 6 days (2 doors down from us about) approx. 4100 sq ft. Now to the opposite extreme opposite; home across the street, large but generic lot, poor maintenance and very little interior upgrades sold for $352,900, about 3800 sq. ft. A little more than a $100,000 dollar price point difference. So here's my question...WHY DO BUYERS profess to know how much my home is worth if THEY haven't done their homework on the neighborhood where they are looking????????????????? Thanks for letting me vent, I feel so much better although I absolutely abhor the process and really, really dislike realtors and buyers!!!!!!! Feedback PLEASE:)

moonlake (author) from America on May 24, 2013:

Deborah-Diane, It was an experience. I know there are good realtors and there are bad. We happen to have bad experience with both the homes we sold. Of course, people have to make a home their own they have that right once they have bought a home. Thank you for stopping by.

Deborah-Diane from Orange County, California on May 23, 2013:

I am a former Realtor and I have also gone through the home selling process myself at least seven times. I understand how difficult it is to sell a home that you love. When Realtors show a home at the last minute, it is usually because their client asked to see it on the spur of the moment. It is as frustrating for the Realtor as for the home seller. I also know that the first thing Buyers do when they move into a home is "make it their own." This usually means changing everything they can afford to change. Even as a Realtor, I had a difficult time with the reality of selling my own homes ... and my husband really hated it. We are renting at the moment and, to be honest, there are many things I really enjoy about renting. Thanks so much for sharing your experiences.

moonlake (author) from America on May 04, 2013:

vespawoolf , The boat house always was a little creepy with all those big spiders in it. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.

Vespa Woolf from Peru, South America on May 04, 2013:

What a nightmare! Thanks for the tips on what to tell realtors. I can't believe the new home owners of your second house tore out the trees because they didn't like the birds! The boat house tantrum made me laugh. : )

moonlake (author) from America on May 03, 2013:

Peggy W, The worst part this wasn't just one realtor it was, lets see I think 4 and 2 different companies. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment and share I appreciate it.

moonlake (author) from America on May 03, 2013:

vandynegl, Your welcome. Besides sickness or death I think selling a house is the most stressful thing there is. Thanks so much for stopping by.

moonlake (author) from America on May 03, 2013:

Paul Kuehn, Thank you so much for stopping by. We were lucky we got our house sold on our own so fast because it had been with the realtors for a long time. Interest rates were high and houses weren't selling that well. Thanks so much for stopping and for the vote, share, tweet and pin.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on May 03, 2013:

Sounds like you had some really bad Realtors!

My dad was a Realtor but also a home builder and he was honest as the day is long. He would point out potential flaws in a house to buyers as well as the good points and if anything needed fixing he was able to give them estimates as to what it would cost. He put much more into his houses than other builders and therefore made less profit, but he was proud of each and every house that he built and it was built to last.

The Realtor that we have used in Houston helped find and then sell my mother's house, my brother's house and now the last one we sold and one that we now live in. She has also become a friend.

While keeping a place spotless and clean is no is amazing how many people do not do that. I previewed about 100 homes before my mother and brother bought their homes here in Houston and then culled from that list to about 8 or 10 of the best ones for them to view. They each bought one from that list. Some of the homes we toured were filthy and smelly. Amazing that any of them could be sold in that state.

People have no right to be going through your private things...nor stealing. A good Realtor keeps an eye on such things and would not allow it to happen.

Finding a good and honest Realtor is like finding a good doctor, dentist or any other individual with whom you wish to give your business. Hope you have better luck next time if you decide to sell your home. A good Realtor can help correctly price your home, give you tips as to what shows best, help navigate all of the legal paperwork, etc. Personally I would not want every "Tom, Dick and Harry" coming through my house in this day and age without having been vetted as to their ability to qualify in purchasing my home which a good Realtor also does.

Yours was a nightmare experience for sure! In the best case scenario, it is not fun living in a home that is also up for sale. I'll agree with you there! Sharing.

vandynegl from Ohio Valley on May 03, 2013:

Thanks for sharing this! It is nice to know that we weren't the only ones going through some crap to sell AND buy a house! Our new house that we currently live in took about 3 months with a realtor. The loan process was horrendous and they kept coming up with all of these setbacks for us. Once we got in the house, we ran into so many issues that the previous owners did not do (fix the leaking roof, eliminate their awful animal smell, treat the house for fleas, clean the toilets....seriously). Now, the house we sold took closer to 6 months. We did not go through a realtor, but the other people's loan company gave everyone a real hard time. So stressful! All of it!

Paul Richard Kuehn from Udorn City, Thailand on May 03, 2013:


This is a very interesting hub and certainly very useful for someone who is selling their house. First let me say that I admire you for selling your first house by yourself and doing it so fast. When I briefly worked as a real estate agent 20 years, the brokers hated FSBOs or "for sale by owner" people. My experiences selling a house while not being a real estate agent weren't too bad. In both cases I had a big company like Century 21 and Coldwell and ?Banker? affliated with Sears handle the sale and finding buyers. The first house was a "creampuff" just completely rebuilt from a fire and it sold within a week. The second house took 3-4 months because the first potential buyer couldn't come up with the bank financing at the last minute. Voted up and sharing and Pinning and Tweeting

moonlake (author) from America on April 06, 2013:

Bridget, I know it's hard when selling a house. All the luck to you hope it all goes well. Thanks for your visit.

Bridget on April 06, 2013:

Buyers are so mean I am literally at whits end this made me feel better maybe I can relax a little now and just prepare

moonlake (author) from America on April 04, 2013:

fedup, Good luck with your house I know how hard it can be to sell a home. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.

fedup on April 04, 2013:

So glad to have found your article. House has been on market for 5 months and a nightmare. I interviewed multiple agents, but agents change very quickly after the contract is signed. Going through the offer process right now, really low ball offer and very low counter per my agent, "we don't want to scare the buyer". You are absolutely right they seem to be working for buyer. I may never own another house. Realtors are rotten in general.

moonlake (author) from America on February 21, 2013:

rajan jolly, I think your right. Thanks so much for stopping by my hub.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on February 20, 2013:

Very interesting! Who would't hate selling a house after going through so much. I guess realtors all over are the same.

moonlake (author) from America on November 30, 2011:

tparkin68, Thank you for stopping by. One agent was a friend, big mistake. The other agent we didn"t get chance to pick. Didn't want to make a big deal out of it she went to our church.

tparkin68 on October 28, 2011:

Really good story. Some things in regards to what the buyers wanted could have been avoided with a realtor that takes more charge of the situation. I interviewed 10 agents online before I committed to the best one for me. I used a service called Sundaybell. Here's an article they wrote on finding the best agent for you....


moonlake (author) from America on September 29, 2011:

tillsontitan, Thank you, I agree with you. You would think with two houses that we would have gotten one good realtor out of it. The big problem is we're the one who hires the realtor but they take the side of the buyer everytime. Thanks for the up vote.

Mary Craig from New York on September 29, 2011:

I think the whole house selling/realtor situation is a sham. I know you more or less have to do it that way to protect yourself and the buyer but I totally sympathize with what you went through! Voted up.

moonlake (author) from America on June 15, 2011:

Karen Wodke, thanks for stopping by my hub. One thing we did wrong was say that we would clear out everything around the yard. Well, this man wanted even trellis we had for flowers removed. There was an old outhouse on the property he wanted that removed we refused. The boat house had things in it he insisted it be removed and should have been left with the boathouse.

Karen Wodke from Midwest on June 15, 2011:

I love your advice at the end! It's so wise.

moonlake (author) from America on June 15, 2011:

BkCreative that's right I was your first.

So nice of you to come over a leave a comment. I think selling a house is right next to having surgery. That day my husband couldn't be at the closing so the man that was buying was taking advantage of a woman. He didn't realize what I had been through all those months trying to sell that place.

Karen Wodke from Midwest on June 15, 2011:

I's so difficult to try and sell a place you are currently living in. It's like putting your life on hold. I prefer to buy a place, fix it up, and sell it rather than selling the one I'm living in. But sometimes we just don't have a choice.

BkCreative from Brooklyn, New York City on June 15, 2011:

Such good advice - I cannot be driven crazy by this process - I do want to sell within the next year or so and I am wondering what should I do in preparation - but 'as is' sounds good.

My poor neighbor has to pack her baby and go somewhere else each time there is a showing.

I'm always amazed that people cannot see beyond the staging - have we become that simple? I suppose so because I hear people saying all the time 'but I don't like that color on the wall' - good grief - you are not going to paint? And how about those that say their couch won't fit? Do you really buy a house to fit a couch? Yikes!

I like your stance and I enjoyed your hub as always!

You were my first comment-person all those years ago (almost 3 - wow!) and yay!